AIBU to tell parents about a 14-year-old vaping with enlarged spleen?

[CeruleanSkies]

Advice please! My son (who is vehemently anti-vaping) just told me that his 14 year old best friend is regularly vaping, but asked me not to tell his parents. However, the friend has an enlarged spleen after contracting the Epstein Barr Virus (and often has bad abdominal pains from it - he has also been banned from playing football for 8 weeks due to the risk of rupture). Having Googled 'is it dangerous to vape with an enlarged spleen', I'm quite concerned and think I should tell his parents. AIBU to do this, even though it might cause problems for the friendship? From what I understand, it will be obvious who it has come from. I simply don't know how dangerous it is (aside from the usual health-risks of vaping), as Dr Google is not always correct.

I would say something. He’s 14. He wont fully understand the health implications of what he’s doing. As a parent, I would want to know.

Yes. I feel for your son. But maybe he handed this information over knowing how it was likely to play out.

Could you tell the parents and make it clear you do NOT want you or your son mentioned as a source, as it will affect the boys' friendship if your son is seen as a snitch. The parents should understand and appreciate that you've given them the heads-up. They could just tell their son that someone local spotted him doing it.

Tell the mum, she can then “find” the vape in his bag / pocket. Nothing to do with you or DS!

I thought most kids went for blue raspberry or mint, so enlarged spleen is quite an avant garde choice.

If it's potentially life threatening his mum has to know..as pp said mum could happen upon said vape.

No I don't think you should say anything. It won't stop the 14 year old from vaping anyway and will damage your relationship with your teen.

Is he actually vaping regularly or is he having a puff on the way home to look cool infront of his mates?

A quick puff isnt going to do anything - regularly vaping might, but id be shocked if his parents didnt know about a full on vaping habit tbh.

Do you know the parents well? If not I'd keep my nose out of it - you might find he has super offended parents that just fire back with a "my son would never!" type of response.