To ask/insist that my dad takes down the stair lift in his house which is no longer used so that we can put up a stair gate for ds age one

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there are also very sharp edges on the stair lift which he will cut himself on if not wathched for every minute and we are there for 2 weeks

i think you are worrying alot about the stay and your only pointing out dangers like rough wood on floor children crawl around in parks on stones and branches and are fine

leave your ds with someone when going to the toilet im sure you wouldnt leave him to fall down the stairs i never took my eyes off my ds at that age always carried him down stairs and left him with someoen else so i could wee in peace

dont worry yourself too much its only natural to think of all that could go wrong but there doesnt seem to be real dangers for him as he is at the supervise at all times age as he would be wanting to get into everything

if in loo with you put soft towel on floor to prevent anything such as splinters

but i do think your panicking yourself im sure when your there you will have lovely time and you will have extra set iof eyes to watch him and just make areas in which you are ijn safe for him and leave other areas out of bounds and enjoy yourself

at this age there more than likely going to fall off the sofa or knock them selves by walking into things as there so curious and think they are older than they are have fun you will be fine

Do you really have to stay for two weeks? I never stay for longer then a week with my family. It gets too stressful however well we get on.

Oh gawd, this is reminding me of the PFB plus parents who came to stay recently - the ones who made us all stand outside the house so baby could have a calm atmosphere at bathtime. The whole household ground to a halt as we all revolved around the baby's needs.

They were asking about stairgates too.

But I do think it's stressful to stay in somebody else's house with a toddler. Maybe you could use a travel cot/playpen kinda thing to keep him safe.

Just watch your child!

If there is a hallway just before the stairs, can't you just put a gate on the door instead?
Otherwise, you will just have to cover it up when you visit.
Stair lifts if needed in the future (who knows) are not the easiest thing to move.
For a start where would he store it?

Shove a large blanket box at the top of the stairs

job done

Sorry I think YABU. Why not just get a travel gate and put it on the door of the room the child is in.

I look after a little boy one day a week and I am still not putting up a stair gate - they make a real mess of the wall to start with. I just watch him.

YABU I'm afraid.

Take a stair gate and put it on the door of whatever room you are in.
When you go to the loo, leave him with someone else, same when you shower etc. You and your DH will have to shower and get ready in shifts.

You can also use his travel cot as a play pen during the day if you need 20 mins break.

Sorry, but it sounds like you're being a bit 'pfb'. Rivens idea is good.

I find it quite hard at my parent' house.I worry that I am just being a bit unreasonable, however it has made me less keen to spend time at my mum's.
They have a wood burning stove on a tile hearth, and last time I was there ds was just learning to crawl. I put lots of cushions around the tile hearth as ds was falling and diving at things alot. My stepdad came and removed them all and said that they would cause a fire. I asked if I could put something around the stove so that ds was less likely to burn himself and my sdad said 'no he has to learn'. Well... one of his toys skidded across the room and fast as lightening his hand shot out and made contact with the hot leg of the stove. ds hand was blistered and I couldn't forgive myself for ages. it has all healed now but I am going to my parent's in a couple weeks and know that I will not be able to relax the whole time as there are no doors on any of the rooms, lots of dogs and cats roaming about, lots of low level ornaments (my mum is always telling me that she never moved anything when we were little... we learned not to touch) and I will have to spend the whole time taking things of ds and sitting on floor with him, chasing him about etc.

I would forget about removing it and storing it in the garage. It's unlikely to survive the experience. You'd also be extremely unlikely to find any reputable installer willing to install it again after treatment like that. If he wants to be able to use it again, it would have to stay where it is, imho, and even that's a long shot as they become obsolete obscenely quickly.

Put the stairgate on a doorway as ripeberry suggests, or get a Babydan playpen/gate - you can enclose odd shaped areas with them(expensive, though).

My parents have open stairs and never had a stair gate. Just becuase it's there, it doesn't replace watching your child.

Maybe neither of you are BU - is he having trouble letting go of things to do with your Mum? May sound odd about a stairlift but could be the last bit of him trying to look after her iykwim. Just a thought - good luck with your trip