DH and I have been married 12 years and have children together. All good and no real problems!
Right at the very start of our relationship (within the first few months or so) I found out that he had been seeing someone else at the same time, someone he’d been to school with.
We weren’t necessarily exclusive at that point but it caused a significant amount of upset and we nearly broke up over it. We worked through it, but as part of moving on I agreed to stop bringing it up. I’ve stuck to that, but honestly I’ve never been comfortable talking about the early part of our relationship e.g. if people ask about how we met and so on, I tend to avoid it because what I thought was happening at the time turned out not to be accurate. I thought we were so into each other, whirlwind etc. but obviously wasn’t the case! Anyway, we got through it.
Recently though, by accident I saw on Instagram that he is connected with this person. It came up as a suggested contact for me because of his connection. When I asked him about it he said she’d sent a follow request about a year ago and he’d accepted it. I was hurt and upset by this, given everything that has gone before.
His response was that I was blowing it out of proportion, which is how he felt I did at the time.
Am I blowing this out of proportion?