to be cross with my sil (who is lovely)

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god it's soo hard to write this without sounding petty..here goes.

Parents in law have a lovely but very small cottage in norfolk, to which we all descend for a family weekend every summer. As both sons have got married and had babies the cottage has just gotten smaller and smaller.

The problem is that sil does not like having a bad night's sleep and therefore always wants to sleep inside.We have until last year rotated between the 2nd bedroom or the sofa bed.Their children (of which there are now 3) somehow always get the 3rd bedroom. Last year DH myself, DS and DD got the tent in the garden. Not a problem as SIL had just had the 3rd baby. All fine.

However, this year I have just been informed the weekend might not happen because I don't want to sleep in the tent again. Was not aware of this.

It is true that we did not have the best night's sleep as we were all in one small tent...but..

Sorry for the long post

And your SIL feels guilty about being in the tent again! Ha ha ha. Obviously not guilty enough to go in the tent herself. She sounds manipulative.

Plus3, it's your holiday too. YANBU. You deserve a good night's sleep as much as the next person. SIL is not more important than you.

Sorry to go on but I'm amazed at the audacity of your SIL and your apologetic tone for not being happy about sleeping in a small tent.

I realise that she is not more important, was just surprised this afternoon - did not bitch about it but came home and stewed! Am very happy to just go with us and the in-laws, but the DC all get on so well together. I just feel agrieved that all this has occured with me suposably being the akward one!

Bar family holiday sleeping arrangements, we all get on very well!

But...shall I tell amother story about the time we went to France? They took their pfb aged 18mths and again gave her a bedroom of her own. We arrived a week later - having just discovered that I was pregnant with our first baby. When we discovered that we had been given the damp cellered bedroom, said, actually no, why can't the pfb go in with them and we will have that room..it caused a BIG problem. Huge...all was forgiven by all when we announced the pregnancy and even now pil will admit that it was all alittle petty..

Anyway heigh ho nice to know that I'm not being unreasonable!

You poor thing! How about leaving the SIL at home, and just taking her older kids with you all, since they get on with yours. The kids can share the bedroom or camp outside.
I can't think anything nice about a woman who would give an 18mo old room and put a grown couple into the cellar!