To recycle my DS's birthday presents amongst his classmates?

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DS is in reception year and his class consists of the youngest third of the year, so there have been a lot of fifth birthday parties recently.

After his party a few weeks ago, he got a lot of rather indifferent "boys toys" (some very similar to each other) that he forgot about almost as soon as he opened them. I put them to one side, and he hasn't mentioned them, so I figured I could either pass some of them on or bring them out at Christmas.

A week ago, a classmate had a party that we couldn't attend. They are not close friends, but I had a card to give and (out of the goodness of my heart) thought I would attach one of the presents my son had received for his birthday. To me this was an extra, as we were not going to the party so there was no obligation to give a present at all.

The mother seemed quite frosty to me the week following the party and hasn't given a thank you card which isn't like her as she is very nice and polite. So I think she must have found out it was a recycled present and got the hump. I don't know how she knows, as I made a very exact list of all the presents my son received and it definitely wasn't the one from her!

It's not a big deal but I was just a bit curious if anyone would think there was a moral issue with passing on presents. It wouldn't bother me at all- in fact some of the ones my son received were pretty dire and I sort of assumed they were pass ons which I just thought was ok and quite sensible.

Any other thoughts on it?

HN - if your DC gets a duplicate gift / or something you know they just wont like what do you do with it?

HN - if your DC gets a duplicate gift / or something you know they just wont like what do you do with it?

HN - if your DC gets a duplicate gift / or something you know they just wont like what do you do with it?

Sorry, Laptop trouble!

charity shop

To be fair it's a bit different recycling family presents to those of your dc's classmates. Chosen by mum on shopping trip prob don't really know your dc so not really chosen with love and care

Haven't read the whole thing yet, but maybe the frosty Mum had recycled the present previously; we received one or two which looked at least third hand at DS last party. I didn't mind at all, DS has got too mcuh stuff already. I passed some of them back to the school fair, still in box, so they might turn up again next birthday.

Exactly Lilyloo

Dont worry about this OP

a girl once gave ds a present and loudly told me how it was a present that had been given to her. ds didn't like it or her much anyway. but I did think it was a bit rude. her mum new she would spill.

I have alsos recycled a duplicate present in the past, but it was to a friend who loved DS' toy so much, I probably would have bought him one anyway; as it was I had a spare all ready in the cupboard. I did tell the mum the truth BTW.

I think it is fine to pass things on again. Its better for the envionment. We have recieved things in the past that I have thought must have been passed on (because they seemed a bit unusual and couldnt imagine that the families involved would have chosen them. wasnt bothered in the slightest.)
I think that you do need to keep a list of who gave what, so that you dont give it back to the person who gave it to you.
I suspect that if the other mum is being frosty it it because she feels uncomfortable that you gave a present and she didnt invite you to the party.
I dont think she would notice even if the gift had originally started out with her. These gifts are all so generic that I dount anyone would recognise any particular item. For example I have 3 Elefun games sat in a cupboard (and one that my kids did use). Cant tell them apart. Think maybe a trip to the charity shop is in order!