My sister said no

[90sbaby123]

Happy to be told i am being unreasonable. Ive had a bad day so not in the best of moods. Ill explain the situation and a bit of background about my Dsis.

So me and my DS collect pokemon. I collected as a child and so did Dsis. The cards were stored in our DM loft. I do t remember how I got much cards if DM gave them to me or I asked to get them. I dont know if Dsis went in the loft first. What I do know is that I don't have all the cards I know I had and pretty certain Dsis has them. I cant prove it though.
Anyway, it's DS birthday coming up and she has tons of original cards. She doesnt collect and doesnt really care much about them. I asked if a could buy a few from her for DS for his birthday.
She has said no she wants them. I asked why since she doesnt collect. She hasn't responded. I think its so she can sell them all for money.

Now for some background.
Ive gifted things to her in the past I.e furniture for my nephews. It was expensive stuff but as shes my sister and they are my nephews I said dw. Even though I was a struggling single parent and she was not and quite comfortable. I could have done with the money but it wasnt about money to me. I then found out to tried to sell it all to make a profile from my generosity. So for context that is the type of person she is. There have been other things too.

Aibu to be angry at her for not even selling us a couple of cards out of her hundreds (even which I think some are mine anyway) for her nephew. I was willing to pay a bit for the cards too.

You can buy pokemon cards elsewhere

Have you asked her about the ones that belong to you which are missing?

Most on here won’t get how hard it is to buy Pokemon cards and how scalpers have ruined the hobby. I understand you’re annoyed but it’s up to her really and yes she probably just wants a profit off them.

Buy elsewhere. Don't let her exploit your generosity again. You can't be certain she's got cards that are yours so let it go.

How about just buying him a bike or some shoes like they did in the old days?

Sounds like childish shit to me. Drop it.

Oh shush grandma

Maybe she has them, maybe she's already sold them, maybe your mum sold them, maybe she's started collecting now, maybe she's secretly appliquéd her downstairs loo with them... I think you're wasting your energy on overthinking it now. Hope you find the cards you're looking for elsewhere!

what would she say if you told her to send you your half of the collection?

😂 bizarre.

I wouldn’t have offered to buy them. If she has your childhood cards, I would just say when is a good time to meet up to sort the cards so we can each have our portion.

this does remind me, I really should put my hands on DD’s old set. With the way the market is at the moment, it might generate a bit of extra cash for pocket money at university.

illuminating.

I meant it more in the sense that she puts it to her as a direct question. If she says no then you can challenge her, at least it opens up the opportunity of a conversation.
But if her sister has half the communication skills you have then maybe you are right and she shouldn't bother.

Being angry with her is a waste of energy. Just match her energy and if she ever asks you for anything just say "No."

so just roll over and let her sister have her cards with no fight. Okay, if that is how the OP wants to manage it.
Personally with my sister I would just go and shove her over and take my cards. But then again we have a good relationship and she isn't a thieving twat.
That I know of.

Tell her some of them were yours anyway. She might have sold them already 😬

You asked. She said no. I can’t see the issue

Yes exactly. People saying just buy off someone else. To buy an original set of cards from the 90s is crazy amounts of money! I saw a pack for close to £1000. Plus some cards she has id find it really hard to find or scalpers would charge me stupid amounts.
I guess I thought out of goodwill she would give up a few cards to her nephew for some money i was willing to offer. I also dont have much money so thought she would be kind and say yea ok out of the hundreds i have you can have a few. But no she is selfish.

I see on here all the time about parents wills etc. I just know years in the future I will probably be writing on here about how my sister is trying to take things. She is that kind of person. The fact im her sister and have been kind to her means nothing.

She would say no.
I had asked her and she denied any were mine

Honestly, you both sound like you need to grow up a bit. She doesn’t want to give them to yours move on.

I know this is a wake up call I needed. Shes so quickly to ask me for things. She asked me for a spare phone literally a few days ago. I dont have one so did say no sorry but she just uses me. Shes never there for me emotionally either, always have to listen to her dramas.
Im just so done with her now.
I know this may seem trivial to some but its an accumulation if lots of things I guess.

Well you’ll never prove who had what and your mother let her have what she’s got.

You asked she said no. That’s all there is to it.

I wouldn’t sell mine either to anyone. That’s a pension 😂