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Moving DCs to a new primary when not moving house.

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Doughlene · 09/06/2026 20:28

I’m really considering moving my children to a different primary school.
We aren’t moving house, but the new school is in the village we moved to about three years ago. We didn’t bother moving our eldest at the time as her current school is only a 7 minute drive however we are facing mounting issues with our daughter struggling socially and emotionally, these are effecting everything from eating to maintaining friendships.
We have had many meetings with the school, her paediatrician has written to request certain things and the GP has also been in contact, but things just don’t get done, promises are made and then not followed through and we are having more and more issues.
My younger two are in year one and both doing fine (though my DS is on a learning plan for learning and cognition with ADHD traits), they are happy to move to the local school as neither seem to have made lasting friendships in their current school.

Overall I think the new school would be beneficial, it’s much much much smaller (40 children in total vs 400), neighbours all have very positive things to say and the tour was really lovely. They have a free breakfast club if they wish to attend and there are after school clubs three days a week that always have places which is unheard of at their current school. They also have a sensory room, and the adult to child ration is completely different.

However, I’m aware the grass isn’t always greener. I know that we can’t possibly know if they’ll thrive at the new school before they’re actually there and they may still have the same issues at a new school.

AIBU to move them? Would you move your DCs at this age if you didn’t physically have to? If you have done so could you tell me what your experience was?

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TeddyBeans · 09/06/2026 20:30

I would worry about the long term viability of a school that only has 40 pupils!

Doughlene · 09/06/2026 20:32

TeddyBeans · 09/06/2026 20:30

I would worry about the long term viability of a school that only has 40 pupils!

I can totally appreciate that! It’s very normal around here, they’ve been running since 1999 and haven’t ever had a large number of pupils. They are partnered with another school a couple villages over that has 31 pupils!
There are quite a large number of schools in the wider area that have less than 80 students!

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Anewuser · 09/06/2026 20:38

I wouldn’t hesitate to move them.

My eldest went to a village school where 7 children finished year 6 to move to secondary school.

The new school sounds lovely.

Doughlene · 09/06/2026 20:42

Anewuser · 09/06/2026 20:38

I wouldn’t hesitate to move them.

My eldest went to a village school where 7 children finished year 6 to move to secondary school.

The new school sounds lovely.

Thank you, it’s so different from what we are used to that I can’t help but worry!
I went to a small village school (albeit not quite this small) and I loved it but it feels like it’s a bad reference point considering it was 30 years ago! 😂

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Anewuser · 09/06/2026 20:50

Behaviour in schools at the moment is awful, but I bet it’s better in smaller schools.

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