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AIBU to complain the school? Ipad related

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Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 09/06/2026 19:59

DC y8 has a school iPad. He's v open with us and told us he'd heard of this cool site where he can watch (poor quality) movies and TV shows, pirated.

I had a look and there are many inappropriate and sexual 18 rated horror / adult movies on there.

I feel really frustrated with the lack of control we have over what sites he can access on his school ipad, we're quite strict with screens and he has a very locked down phone and limited gaming time.

We have to trust him not to watch these things as we cannot control what he does on his iPad before and during school in breaks etc (luckily he's usually outside playing sports). I also don't want to have to constantly police it when he's doing homework and revision which is all on the iPad!

AIBU to complain to the school that they have given my child an addictive device on which he can access goodness knows what, which I have no control over as a parent, and which they don't seem to either!

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Kuga26 · 09/06/2026 21:40

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 09/06/2026 20:28

The way this particular site is structured I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be picked up by this unfortunately

Just email the website address to the school and asked for it to be blocked.

Yes, more inappropriate sites may come along, but just keep doing the same. One inappropriate site at a time.

Don’t tell your kid though, as he’ll not tell you which cool sites he’s on in the future.

KarmenPQZ · 09/06/2026 21:42

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 09/06/2026 20:27

The problem is it's then whack-a-mole. There are literally millions of similar websites I'm sure. It would be better if they had an approved list of sites they could access.

You need to tell school that they should be whitelisting approved sites rather than blacklisting.

seriously worried for your school as they seem totally clueless.

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 09/06/2026 21:59

KarmenPQZ · 09/06/2026 21:42

You need to tell school that they should be whitelisting approved sites rather than blacklisting.

seriously worried for your school as they seem totally clueless.

Yes I will suggest this. There would inevitably be huge blow back to them doing this which might make them reluctant

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Wemustbetherebynow · 09/06/2026 22:09

Definitely raise it with the school preferably via their safeguarding team and show them what you have found and demand a full written response and actions they plan to deal with it. As other people have said, our experience with an iPad secondary school (over 10 years of it now) is that everything is so controlled and locked down by the school there is little they can do on it. Sounds like the school needs to get a proper grip of their IT

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 10/06/2026 14:10

Wemustbetherebynow · 09/06/2026 22:09

Definitely raise it with the school preferably via their safeguarding team and show them what you have found and demand a full written response and actions they plan to deal with it. As other people have said, our experience with an iPad secondary school (over 10 years of it now) is that everything is so controlled and locked down by the school there is little they can do on it. Sounds like the school needs to get a proper grip of their IT

Interesting to know, to be fair to the school, this site has been specifically designed to circumnavigate the security

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BringBackCatsEyes · 10/06/2026 14:15

The school-issue iPad my 6th former has, has so many controls it’s impossible to do anything aside from school work.
Are you sure his has been set up properly?

BoredZelda · 10/06/2026 14:18

YABU for your reasoning, but it is worth mentioning to the school there is a problem site which can be accessed. My daughter’s school iPad is so locked down she often can’t access the sites she needs for research so I’m surprised he was able to access porn on it.

BoredZelda · 10/06/2026 14:19

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 10/06/2026 14:10

Interesting to know, to be fair to the school, this site has been specifically designed to circumnavigate the security

Also seems unlikely.

Livpool · 10/06/2026 15:32

Pippa12 · 09/06/2026 20:31

I wouldn’t be happy with my child having access to this sort of material either, especially on a school iPad!

I do think it’s abit strange that you need to force him to do his homework downstairs to the point of tears? If I told my child to categorically not deviate from the homework task I would 100% expect him not to. I’d check in periodically but I would allow him the opportunity to gain your trust. The repercussions would be harsh if he went rogue!

I think it is because the sibling was playing a noisy instrument while they were trying to work. Not sure why the child had to be on the instrument at that exact time though

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 10/06/2026 19:33

BoredZelda · 10/06/2026 14:18

YABU for your reasoning, but it is worth mentioning to the school there is a problem site which can be accessed. My daughter’s school iPad is so locked down she often can’t access the sites she needs for research so I’m surprised he was able to access porn on it.

It's not porn! It's 18 rated movies

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