Baby/toddler don’t sleep please help

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My boy is 18 months old
me and my partner take it in turns to get him to bed at night. He goes down fine after his dinner & bath at 7.30pm
he sleeps until midnight. Then he’s up crying every hour or so.
ive tried self soothe (as much as I can) as the screaming wakes the other children up and my partner is up at 6am for work.
I’ve slept next to his bed I’ve tried it all. We’ve tried every bed you can imagine. Cot, travel cot, even toddler bed!
I know he’s not ill or anything because as soon as he has contact with mum or dad he’s fine and goes back to sleep. Admittedly after a while we put him in with us because we’re exhausted. I know this is totally wrong but how do we break that cycle at the stage of exhausted?
any tips are very welcomed and if I’m doing things terrible be honest I’ve had enough. He’s a lovely baby he’s brilliant we adore him but the nights are nothing me down

Mine was like this, we resorted to cosleeping for a bit so we got some sleep.
We would put her down for the night, then when she woke, tried again to put her down in the cot. If that didn't last then we would cosleep for the rest of the night. We had a bed in her room so one of us either slept on the bed with her in the cot, got a pillow and slept on the floor next to her cot and held her hand or one of us of us slept in the bed with her (following cosleeping guidelines).
Eventually she started sleeping longer or would successfully go back in the cot on her own. It got easier when I stopped breastfeeding overnight.

Why do you think cosleeping is ‘totally wrong’? It’s clearly what he needs and everyone gets to sleep. What’s the problem?

Thankyou. I don’t think co sleeping is wrong just gets cramped up as toddler fidgets a lot and my partner ends up on the sofa because of it and I feel bad

We had a sofabed out in the nursery pretty much the whole time between one and two. We'd take turns cosleeping in there with him if he woke.

There's nothing wrong with it, generations of toddlers have slept with their parents. The Catholic church led the vendetta on cosleeping because some very poor women suffocated babies they couldn't afford, so they mandated the cot.

But it's totally normal for baby mammals to mostly sleep with a parent. The first 5h in the cot is great - just do what you have to after that.

Cosleeping in one bed is hard with 2 adults, thats why we kept the bed in the room with the cot, so it was only one of us in a small double bed with a toddler. Or put something soft like a blow up mattress next to the cot so you can be next to toddler in the cot without having to cosleep properly.

We’ve had a bed alongside the cot for when our toddler wakes up so we can settle our DD by co sleeping - it’s saved our sanity as couldn’t have coped the amount of nights she’s woke up.