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To join a dating app for this reason?

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PolIyPutTheKettleOn · 08/06/2026 11:55

This might sound a bit odd, but would it be wrong to join a dating app purely for conversation and a bit of male attention?

Lately I’ve been feeling quite invisible and, if I’m honest, a bit like I’ve been “left on the shelf”. I think most people like to feel attractive and wanted from time to time.

I’m not looking for a relationship or dating, and I absolutely will not be meeting up with anyone under any circumstances, friendship or otherwise. This will be purely for online chat only.

I also don’t want to join a friendship app, as I don’t mind a bit of flirting and banter rather than strictly platonic chat (although no sexting!) but some light flirting is fine. I just miss talking to men, that connection, and honestly it would be nice to feel attractive again and see that there is still some interest there.

I would be completely upfront about all of this and would clearly state on my profile that I am only looking for online conversation and not meeting anyone.

If I were honest about that from the start and stated clearly on my profile, would it be unfair to join a dating app just for this? Has anyone else done something similar, or would I just be wasting people’s time?

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PolIyPutTheKettleOn · 08/06/2026 18:38

Well at least I will know men still find men sexually attractive 😅🤣 ive got thick skin that won’t bother me I’d have a laugh and block them

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