Struggling to appreciate things

[KeoT]

I have had a realisation today, that despite having many things I once longed for (relationship with somebody kind and caring, a lovely child, reasonable job), I spend so much time longing for other things (bigger house, better paid job etc) and never really enjoy the here and now. I’m lucky enough to have both parents fit and healthy, but feel I take that for granted too. I know that the day they aren’t here anymore, I’ll wish I’d have appreciated it more.

Does anyone else feel like this? Any tips welcome. I feel like I’m never content and I dislike that fact!

Wow, reading this has really resonated with me. I feel the exact same way OP. I dislike it too, I have everything I once longed for yet it feels like I now need more. Hopefully someone comes along and tells us how to get over this feeling

I understand OP. I go through phases of feeling fed up and sorry for myself..wishing aspects of my life were different. I was feeling like this last week when i bumped into my ex-manager at the gym whose wife was exactly the same age as me, almost to the day. Very sadly she died of cancer a year ago. We talked about her for a while and as i drove home i thought about how much she would have given to just be alive and be healthy (as I am) and be able to go to the gym, potter round Lidl then sit in the garden with a coffee and listen to the birds. All weekend every time i felt a bit glum i thought of her and that helped to remind me of all I should be grateful for. I know its not always easy but i think just trying to practice gratitude every day is worth trying. I get it though, life can be hard and it can be so easy to look around and feel others have it easier but if you have your health and strength thats a lot to be grateful for.

I feel the same. I actually heard a saying the other day which made me think about this - Happiness is not having what you want , it’s wanting what you have.

The above all resonates, comforting in a way to know I’m not alone in that feeling x