Bullying at workplace grief

[Keepcalmcanyou]

after some months of bullying, I have finally resigned from my job. Went from being the top person in the department (very measurable and very high pressure job) to this very quickly. It comes with grief for the opportunity I lost, for the professional identity, and all the stress, the anxiety attacks etc. what worked for you to get over similar circumstances please?

How come you resigned? Did HR not do anything?

I started my own business but I'm still bitter about my lost youth and taking shit from people because I lacked confidence in my abilities etc.

Sorry you're going through this but good on you for recognising you can leave and try elsewhere.

Please tell me you went off sick with stress first and maxed out any sick pay?! If you feel your only choice was to leave, you may have a case for constructive dismissal.

I haven’t had the grief of this but I just wanted to respond and say I’m sorry for what you’ve been through. I unfortunately work in a department where I see quite a lot of bullying and find it a very toxic environment. The person who seemed to be on the receiving end recently, it was only their first job. I didn’t know them very well but tried to make an effort with them. They’ve now left - I’m pleased for them. But I fear that I could easily be the next target. I don’t know how some people go around like that, you were brave and knew what was going to be best for you in the end. As they say everything happens for a reason and hopefully the next opportunity will come along and be better 💐

@Offherrockingchair i would have had a case with slightly longer tenure but it would have required a very long (kind of unpaid) sick leave to reach the 2 years mark. My bully made it very clear that they had taken this into consideration by the way. Statutory pay is a small fraction of my usual pay, it would have put too much pressure on the family finances (I have a new job lined up).

It takes time. You've been bullied - that doesn't heal overnight. Working through it, whether on your own or with therapy, is important - just sweeping it under the carpet doesn't usually work.

That is appalling !
How did the bully make you aware of their 'plan' ?
Do you know why you were the target ?
Glad you have new job.
I absolutely hate bullies.