I can’t keep up with this cat anymore

[ernie23]

hello. Long story short my mother moved to another country therefore I took on her cat( wasn’t really much of a choice )
anyways The point in cat has been with me one year or so . I have an active kid, this cat is not a friendly cat type. British shorthair . She likes being in the same room but not touched or hates loud noises .
she isn’t so friendly to my daughter or anyone really . But that’s not the case .
In this year i have dealt with an eye surgery which wasn’t fully successful ,to very bad over grooming to now diarrhoea . Through these times we tried to help her with overgrooming . Then the eye , so many eye drops and appointments . Still so many months later I am on some eye medication. At this point the cat is hating me and making me feel miserable because I feel like she is not happy in this house . And therefore I am unhappy . I feel like I can’t provide happy life for this cat anymore .
the cat must think I am abusing her throughout all these medications I had to give her . Restrictions and what not . I am tired
she used to be an indoor cat . But after I let her out to make her happier but due to eye surgery I can’t do that anymore and now she is miserable
all the time .

do you think it’s unreasonable to give up and if so how can I do that . I am really starting to think she would be happy with some retired lady ,but again without cats as she isn’t friendly towards other cats .

The cat is clearly stressed and unhappy. You've been a good, caring owner so far. Trying to find a home where she would be happy and contented is also being a good, caring owner. I only know of Cats’ Protection cats.org.uk, where we got our MeCat from. I would contact then and ask their advice on rehoming.

If you can’t meet the cat’s needs then it is the best thing for the cat to give it up so someone else can - that’s not bad ownership or a failure but it’s recognising that the cat would be happier elsewhere!

British shorthairs ars usually friendly, relaxed and great with kids so she's stressed and unhappy. Any reputable rescue or the British shorthair rehoming group will find her a new home.

@MissMoneyFairy she has been like that since day 1 . Even at mums if there was visitors she would hide . Come out when everyone was gone . She isn’t type to come and cuddle you . All the cats are different . I just know she isn’t social cat. Even tho after being with me she started to accept others having a little stroke on the back . Which was never possible in the first few years

Poor little thing, maybe she felt scared, or wasn't well socialised as a kitten.

@MissMoneyFairy she has been bought from another country so I think journey must have been awful. This is what we thinking . Although she has been brought all vaccinated and also right age .

You are probably right, where did she come from, are you in the UK, does she see the vet yearly.

@MissMoneyFairynorth Europe. I mean she is vaccinated also with her problems she has been to vet more than normal . I actually can’t keep up anymore .

I just think she is very sensitive cat that needs to be outdoors for few hrs a day and solo owner

She probably doesn't need to be outside at all, to be honest. I think you should rehome her to a rescue centre

@PinkWabbit she actually loves being outside . But because of her eye surgery she can’t therefore she always begs to go but can’t .

You might perceive that she loves to go outside but diarrhoea can be a stress response or can be a sign of parasites etc. I had a persian cat who did not like a lot of people, noise, activity etc and my parents decided, after she'd been raised as an indoor cat, to let her outside to make her "happy" and it almost killed her.

They made the wrong choice and I think you are making the wrong choice, even though I have no doubt intent is good.

I think she's best suited to another home.

She needs to be in a quiet no kid/no pet home. She is stressed out.

Could you build a catio? That was she can have secure access outside, but isn’t roaming free?

Oh I thought it was you with the eye surgery, she's been through too much and she's not happy, she really needs to be removed for everyone's sake. What part of the country are you in if you want help with rescue centres. Why was she bought over from Northern Europe

@Larrythecatforpm this is what I am thinking

@MissMoneyFairy no it was the cat . She is 5 now . Yes I feel like she had terrible year and therefore all the meds I had to give her she must think I am some monster . She does comes to me to sleep but I just see during day she seems so
miserable.
i am not sure my
mum bought her from lady who breeds British shorthair. I don’t know what was she thinking . The lady is good but bringing over to another country where there is full of cats u can get is so
inconsiderate but it’s past now so can’t really judge anymore .