My DP is suffering from low mood and has done for the last year or so. I’ve been very sympathetic but I’m beginning to become frustrated.
He’s constantly complaining of a sore head (GP and opticians have thoroughly investigated and it’s believed to be caused when he’s feeling tired…)
He complains of feeling isolated as we live 2 hours away from his family and most of his friends. He has a lonely WFH job. He plays football once or twice a week and has a few friends there. Whenever I suggest we do something with any of my friends and their partners he says no and would rather stay at home so it’s always me and my toddler going to things alone.
He’s off to America to see Scotland in the World Cup (which is another thread in itself). I’ve suggested a few activities for him to have some quality time with our son before we go but he said he’d just rather play with him at home.
Our toddler is very full on so there’s no relaxing days in the house like there used to be before having him. This afternoon I suggested a play date with our friend and she asked if she could bring her husband (who my partner gets on well with). I said yes and my partner said ‘oh no’ and is now in a mood saying he just wanted to relax this afternoon.
So now I feel the need to change the play date to my friends house or the park because I can’t be bothered with his mood putting a dampener on our afternoon. It feels so frustrating that he thinks he can just opt out of parenting because he’s feeling down but he’s getting 10 nights solo in America!!!
Id love nothing more than a relaxing afternoon on the couch but that’s just not an option right now and I’ve accepted it.
AIBU?