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to think bad photos aren’t friendly?

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nervousnellie90 · Yesterday 23:17

I went out with a few girlfriends recently for drinks. One of them instigated taking ‘candid’ photos of eachother with our drinks. The two other girls proceeded to take these for eachother but I said i didn’t want any. One of the girls started taking pictures of me any way and badgering me to pose even though I had said no in the first place and was clearly uncomfortable being put under pressure to do it.

Later both girls shared their pictures from the night and one had taken two really nice ones of the girl that was taking our photos. When she put our friends on they were not as flattering as hers (but she had been joking around when she was posing) and she’d taken 4 of her. She then dropped in 13 photos of me that were all really unflattering and as they went along she had continued to zoom in on my face closer and closer. The worst part of it is you can see how uncomfortable I am in the pictures and i’m literally looking at the floor for most of them!

I feel like that’s a really dick move, or am i being unreasonable?!

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AnonymityAnonymity · Yesterday 23:24

It all sounds extremely childish. Are you all actually old enough to drink?
Perhaps you should find a new friendship group who can go out and enjoy themselves without wasting the night taking photos.

ScullyD · Yesterday 23:27

I agree OP. It’s just the norm now. Makes it harder to relax when you’re waiting to be subjected to the next ‘candid’ photo!

friends do this to me semi-often and I absolutely hate it.

shelvedplans · Yesterday 23:54

I absolutely love that camera phones and social media were not a thing until my 30s.

I do feel sorry for the youngsters these days, nothing is private; a night out with your mates can’t just be that, it has to be shared as global news!

AHalfling · Yesterday 23:58

Yanbu
I noticed a friend was careful to only post flattering pictures of her self but would cheerily share the worst pictures of everyone else. It made me see her really differently

AnonymityAnonymity · Today 00:13

shelvedplans · Yesterday 23:54

I absolutely love that camera phones and social media were not a thing until my 30s.

I do feel sorry for the youngsters these days, nothing is private; a night out with your mates can’t just be that, it has to be shared as global news!

Well if people didn't buy into this nonsense that everything has to be photographed then it wouldn't be the norm.
I can't understand why people just aren't bored witless by looking at photos of themselves constantly. Surely self obsession has to have some limits?

SaulHudsonDavidJones · Today 00:16

Yes I agree. Breaks girl code.

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