So the background. I have 4dc, 3 from my previous marriage and a 4 month old with dp. Dp has a hobby/interest that means every 5 weeks or so he’s out of the house for around four hours on a Friday morning. This is usually fine with me. I’m always given enough notice. It’s a bit of a pain because he needs a car to get to said hobby and we don’t have one. So this often requires him driving a two hour round journey the night before to pick a car up from a family member. Then go in the morning, then take the car back which means the family member then has to bring him back home again.
As I previously said, I’m usually given enough notice so I don’t mind. This brings us to yesterday. The hobby was on but he had decided this particular one wasn’t worth going to. His family were visiting from abroad and then his other family member (the one who he borrows the car off) came over. All fine. Not long before the family member was leaving he asked if he could borrow the car as apparently there was a postponement so hobby was now on today and he would like to go after all. I was a bit miffed. I was hoping for a day without any faff but I assumed family member was off so it wouldn’t be too bad.
Nope, after being put on the spot in front of family member to say it was ok I discover what the plan would be. Go to there’s now so he can drive the car back. That’s two hours after a busy few days. Then today leave at six for hobby, go straight to family members and visit other family members for a few hours before dropping the family member to work and driving back. This would take him out of the house from 6am-2pm. Then picking family member up from work and having them drive him home later this evening. Another 2 hours. I wasn’t best pleased but agreed as long as he took the baby to the family members after the hobby because frankly I resented him passing the inconvenience of his plans onto me after not being consulted on any of this.
Anyway, he ended up sleeping in so didn’t even make it to hobby. He’s very grumpy that I pretty much forced him to take the baby on this mornings now four hour trek instead of keeping them with me. Started throwing out things like ‘he’s concerned I can’t handle all four of my children at once’. Not the case. I can and do all the time while he’s in work and the mornings where he doesn’t get out of bed! I just resent it when he took it upon himself to spring this on me with no consideration of how inconvenient it makes things. I decided just this once not to take it quietly and put the inconvenience back on him. Aibu?