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AIBU to stop offering work experience?

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Itsallacademic · 05/06/2026 10:47

Background: I work for a very large employer with many departments, my particular role involves specialised laboratories and equipment. For the past several years, I have offered work experience placements to 6th form students within my team (usually lasting a week or two). While this does require additional paperwork and specialised risk assessments, I felt it was worthwhile both to inspire the next generation and to contribute positively to the organisation’s wider profile.
Current situation: I now have a DD in Yr12 who is trying hard to secure summer work experience. Importantly, her subjects are not related to my area of work. DD's college regularly shares information about work experience opportunities, but due to our family’s income level/education level/postcode/etc, she is eligible for very few of the schemes. She has applied for everything she can but has not been successful so far.
So, I suggested that DD contact other teams and departments within my organisation assuming that there would be colleagues offering placements in the same way I have. However, every response so far has been negative - most say the organisation does not offer work experience at all, often citing H&S even for departments that are just office-based (obviously, as I work at the same employer, I know exactly what paperwork is required so I know this is not true).
My AIBU: This has left me wondering whether I have been overly generous all these years. Providing work experience for under-18s is time-consuming, comes with administrative burden and does require resources. I had always believed I was doing something worthwhile and contributing as a responsible member of the organisation. However, it seems that very few, if any, others are doing the same - basically they can't be bothered?
I have told DD that she is welcome to do her work experience in my team, even though it is not directly relevant to her studies (and perhaps it won't look so positive on her CV to have worked with her mum). But after this summer, I am seriously considering "closing shop" and declining any future requests from 6th form students. AIBU?

OP posts:
NotInMyyName · 10/06/2026 10:26

@SomeOtherUserthe OP has no obligation either morally or via her role to deliver this purely voluntary activity. It sounds like she has a demanding work role, family who needs her support etc. Shes disappointed that her efforts haven’t been returned in kind, for her daughter. Id be pretty pi££ed off having invested in other families children for years but no return in kind. OK the other children are being disadvantaged or punished as you describe. So what? I dont see why this is the OPs responsibility.

Im glad OP that you are planning good stuff.

Edit. Maybe the comment about the company is in response to other people’s comments about the OP negatively affecting her company. Its a longish thread.

whittingtonmum · 10/06/2026 21:29

Please don't give up offering work placements. It's so, so much needed. The UK is an absolute disgrace for these types of things. Schools and Colleges are pushing the students to do work experience - for very good reason - and there's no one to offer it to them.

In the meantime pull some strings in your company so your DD gets a placement - either with you or with other colleagues (that's what most people have to resort to in the UK - connections). DS did a pre-recorded virtual work experience on Springpod. Completely useless. I don't think he learned anything. Certainly not how to turn up on time, make a good impression, observe adults behaving professionally, understand a bit about company culture...none of it. Zilch.

Luckily DS is a dual British/German citizen and speaks fluent German. Last summer he did a sports-related work experience for a week in a not-for-profit in Berlin. I coached him a bit on how to relate to his colleagues (asking how they chose their career etc He was amazed how well the question worked and what detailed answers he got. Lesson learned: people love talking about themselves). They gave him an amazing reference letter which he has used to apply for more work experience this summer in Germany. Now he has four placements at big global German companies lined up. And we're talking BIG, including Europe's most profit making company. He's 16. He will learn so, so much.

Why can't kids in the UK have the same opportunities? What can German companies do that UK companies can't? The German economy isn't brilliant either but they just don't turn their back on young people the way the UK does. It's such a disgrace.

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