Positive symptoms of peri/menopause?

[Periperinotsospicy]

Just that..

So I have lots of negatives but balancing my significant brain fog is this weird calm feeling that I haven't had before.

Same!

Are the people having better sex having it with the same or new relationship?

My frizzy hair is soft, smooth and manageable.

I have this amazing clarity - gaslighting and manipulation are painfully obvious to me now. I can smell bullshit. I can hear the tonal shift right before a lie.

I just don’t have the capacity to run myself ragged anymore. If I don’t pace myself I get hit with a three day migraine and that has reset my priorities and forced me to factor in my needs and put myself, maybe not first, but second or third.

Biggest bonus of menopause.... No more periods.

Mind you, apart from the odd hot flush, I've had ZERO symptoms of menopause.

It's not a nightmare for all women.

@Arcadia same relationship since '98. Perhaps it's a confidence thing? I was ill and lost weight, managed to keep it off the last 18 months, still have wobbly bit but they aren't so wobbly! It's also made me more bendy,even though I do fuck all exercise except for dog walking and stair climbing (lots of those daily).
On a previous thread I admitted to writing smut, so there's that as well 😆

My IBS that I'd had since 16 went.

20yr marriage. Testosterone is key.

I guess in some ways waking up mega early is a benefit, as I couldn’t imagine waking up and getting on with stuff / getting ready for work straight away. I like to doom scroll / drink tea first for hours!

My DH is retired and sleeps in every day until mid morning or later, and I used to hate it, used to get mad at all the things we could have done. But now I appreciate lazy mornings, drinking tea and doom scrolling or watching old films . I appreciate the quiet and lack of rushing about. It’s priceless.

Your periods stop.
You no longer care what people think about you.
Menopause is brilliant.

Always feeling warm when everyone else sats it is cold.
Caring less about others opnions or trying to intimate me.

OMG not having periods is such a win. Not cycling through the hormonal shifts every damn month. I didn't realise how much it impacted me every fucking day until it stopped.

Also, not giving a damn any more is great.

Do you get these positives with or without HRT? I’m 49 and in the throes of peri. Currently on my 2nd period in 3 weeks. Been up 3 times in the night with flooding and the hormonal migraines currently feel never ending. Is it better to get myself on HRT or push through with no medication?

My ok blood pressure is getting lower as I no longer give a fuck!

Personally I’m HRT’d to the max with patches and mirena coil. Coil has more or less stopped the awful periods altogether, and the delightful stabbing pains I was getting in my arsehole during periods (known as ‘javelin arse’ on here!) that would have me doubled up on the floor.
Migraines seem to be lessening in frequency duration and severity, they were worst in my early/mid forties (now 51)

2 hours?? 😯

Yep. I go for a wee and tissue is covered in bright red blood, next time I go for a wee there's a bit of blood and the next wee, there's some residual brown discharge. I'm always done before teatime!

Lovely after having periods where I would be bent double over the kitchen counters crying in pain for 30yrs.

I was like you. It was pouring out of me.
I started TXA which was a miracle cure, then got a mirena and then got my iron levels up.

Honestly my life is Miles better than it was in autumn 2022.

Im on 100mcg oestrogen, mirena, testosterone, vaginal oestrogen.

I'm like a normal functioning human again.

Thank you @Arcadia and @Gardeningsideeffects
Will get a GP appointment sorted asap.

My mental health is far better than it has been since I was about 12.
I long had an inkling that me and progesterone were a match made in hell; terrible PMT/PMD, couldn’t get on with the Pill, went totally screwy during pregnancy and had horrific PND (to the point where I never repeated the excercise, one and done), developed intrusive thoughts taking progesterone orally for HRT after medically induced menopause, so it’s pessary only for me.
I quite like being sane.

ChequerToRed
I know this sounds cheesy, but you sound exactly the same as me! Terrible PMT, the progesterone pill made me mental, then horrific PND with very frightening intrusive thoughts. Also one and done. Tried HRT and absolutely not for me. It took me all these years to come to the conclusion that synthetic hormones don't agree with me.
I'm happier now than I've ever been since starting periods.