Concerned about friend & her child?

[costcsooo]

I have a close friend and I am a bit concerned about her and her child.

She is a single parent to her 2 year old but the father has their daughter EOW.

She recently starting dating and from what she has told me I am quite worried.

She introduced her daughter to a guy she was seeing a month into them dating.
He has stayed over with the daughter there.

She regularly has parties with 2/3 guys in her house drinking, playing music etc with her daughter there.
I asked her if the music wakes her daughter up and she replied no.

She had sex with two different guys within 24 hours both unprotected.

Her closest friends (female) apart from me seem to have drifted away from her last year or so and she says she gets lonely which I totally get.

She has began asking me to babysit on weekdays sometimes so she can have guys over but as I have 3 off my own (one is under 1) I have told her this is impossible for me to do but have done so when she has sounded really drunk.

AIBU to be concerned? I don't know how to support her?

She is 30 and I am worried she is having some kind of crisis judging by her behaviour.

Yanbu at all

Is the dad a more stable person?

Well sounds like she’s making really poor decisions. What’s her family situation ? Are there grandparents involved in any way ?

Another one prioritising dick over the wellbeing of their dc and potentially putting them at risk at the same time. Yanbu to be concerned

I know. She’s a complete fud.
Honestly, women like this are just embarrassing.

@Goodnessyoualldashoffdontyoureppies just to let you know this is the second thread in the last hour where all your replies have been deleted.

OP, that sounds really concerning both health wise and for the child. Can you speak honestly to her? Will she listen?

@costcsooo, 1st thing to do is speak to her. She is your friend. Tell her you are worried. Have that conversation as a matter of urgency.

Agree with this, you need to speak to her.

can you speak to anyone else- her parents, what’s the relationship with the child’s Dad like?

"She regularly has parties with 2/3 guys in her house drinking, playing music etc with her daughter there"

If this was a man doing this then the advice would be report him to social services.

She is clearly in no fit state to look after her child if she spends evenings frequently pissed. She needs reporting for her childs benefit.

Have you posted about this before fairly recently? And you contacted the dad, who wants the child more but she wont allow him?

If the dad is decent you need to let the dad know. Id also be inclined to let HV know, presuming you have chatted with your friend about the unsafe situations she has put both herself and her child in.

I would anonymously report her to social services that she is regularly drunk while solely responsible for a toddler, and allowing strange men stay in the house.