Basically, since we had our son 2 years ago, I am hugely disappointed in DP. I carry the entire household, mentally and financially. I've been on a slow and long recovery from pregnancy which has left.me with a lot of health issues. I somehow manage to go to physio weekly, work a lot of hours (more than standard full time), secured a promotion, negotiated flexibility with work, cook, clean, make a lot more money than him, do everything nursery related, handle all illnesses, handle all night wakes (DS didn't sleep until he was 18 months), and be a present and calm and warm parent for my DS. I've sacrificed everything that was for me (except physio and dr appointments). I don't socialize, have hobbies or do anything for me. Whatever, it's a short stage in life in my view.
DP is just....floating around. Bog standard office job, he's managed to not get promoted, finishes at 4 every day (!!), isn't very fit, doesn't do much beyond playing with DS and a nursery run here and there. He does cook dinner here and there. He gets very stressed at the smallest thing, I.cannot trust him with anything. He's been on FOUR lad's week long holidays since DS was born (all his mates are divorced 😂).
No, I don't touch his laundry or lunches or whatever, I don't do anything purely for him.
He's fine, not awful. I'm not even angry anymore ( I went through a phase of being angry), just...hugely disappointed. He's basically a bit of a loser. I've been hoping he cheats or something eventually but I think he's too lazy for it.
No, we are not married. He doesn't believe in it (whatever that means, since it's a legally binding contract) and I actually really don't want to. Thank god as I have assets and savings to protect for DS' sake.
What do I do? I am fine to keep things as they are. But is there more to life? I'm not that bothered about men anymore. It's nice to have someone to go on holiday with etc. He does contribute something financially. And he will "babysit" on the odd night I work late so it is helpful to have him here. If we split, he'll just be Disney dad and my life will be harder.