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AIBU to find it odd a teacher said this without explanation?

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Meltinghereokay · Yesterday 16:50

Dd, 7, told me today that the teacher told her she’d been naughty but she didn’t know why.
She said she had lots of papers with kids names on (around four names, including Dd’s ) and read out their names and said they had been very naughty today. She didn’t say why or what they’d done. Dd doesn’t know why and says she wasn’t told off for anything

Does this seem odd

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mrsbowes · Yesterday 22:13

If your DD is upset I'd ask the teacher about it.
If not, then no I wouldn't bother asking about nonsense like this!

Renphoaddict · Yesterday 22:15

Ask the teacher. And pay attention, it could be nothing but it might be something

Stoneangel · Yesterday 22:17

The first thing I think of in situations like this is to post on Mumsnet to fire up the anti school, anti authority mummy army rather than thinking there may be a context, my child is only 7 and I definitely won't contact the school...

ElenOfTheWays · Yesterday 22:17

Meltinghereokay · Yesterday 20:29

Seems like the teacher had written down on pieces of paper the children who were ‘Naughty’

Perhaps she's collecting data for Father Christmas 😂

Moonnstarz · Yesterday 22:27

The primary school I work in does write down names of children given warnings. Usually in the lower years these warnings are given after several reminders and only once the child has continued to ignore the requests e.g. listen to the teacher. Maybe the teacher read the names out as a reminder that they had been spoken to that day for making poor choices (and your DD changed the wording to being naughty as she knows that's what it realistically means).

Walkingroundincircle22 · Yesterday 22:34

The bigger issue is (and it's not major, just odd) the teacher callings children naughty. I'm in education and no-one i've ever worked with would label a child that.

TBH, if they need to read out a naughty list, perhaps they need a bit of cpd training.

I'd check in with teacher and get the full story. Probably nothing, but your daughter will appreciate you've got her back.

FlowerSticker · Yesterday 22:36

NotAnotherScarf · Yesterday 21:29

Anx this is why they should still have the cane...kids wouldn't come home full of bollocks and parents believing it...if the kid knew they'd get one with the cane they'd think about what they were saying

😂 until some sadistic shit hits your child for no good reason

Moonnstarz · Yesterday 22:40

Walkingroundincircle22 · Yesterday 22:34

The bigger issue is (and it's not major, just odd) the teacher callings children naughty. I'm in education and no-one i've ever worked with would label a child that.

TBH, if they need to read out a naughty list, perhaps they need a bit of cpd training.

I'd check in with teacher and get the full story. Probably nothing, but your daughter will appreciate you've got her back.

The likelihood is that the child has changed the wording. We talk about making good choices at school and being sad when friends make poor choices....most kids know that this means at times being naughty. DD is likely to know that the names are of people who have done the wrong thing that day and has put it into her own words - children who were naughty.

throwawayimplantchat · Yesterday 22:51

NotAnotherScarf · Yesterday 21:29

Anx this is why they should still have the cane...kids wouldn't come home full of bollocks and parents believing it...if the kid knew they'd get one with the cane they'd think about what they were saying

How embarrassing to think it’s a good idea to give adults a tool to physically hurt children with. Great moral framework there. What kind of adult do you think would be comfortable purposefully hurting a child?

redboxerclub · Yesterday 22:54

FunnyOrca · Yesterday 20:40

Hmm… I’d like to meet the teacher still using the word “naughty” in 2026.

You definitely don’t have the full story. If you are going to question it further, and I might just out of curiosity, be sure not to go in defensively, rather open to finding out more.

after 20 years as teacher I have started to use it. Because the students know it means they have done something that they know they shouldn’t have on purpose. It’s deliberate misbehaviour.

Walkingroundincircle22 · Yesterday 23:01

Moonnstarz · Yesterday 22:40

The likelihood is that the child has changed the wording. We talk about making good choices at school and being sad when friends make poor choices....most kids know that this means at times being naughty. DD is likely to know that the names are of people who have done the wrong thing that day and has put it into her own words - children who were naughty.

Very true. I had this before, my child said something had happened. Turns out it was quite different and i looked a bit silly. Still glad i supported my child but i did use a pinch of salt thereafter haha.

I do hope a teacher wouldn't say 'naughty' but there are some old school ones.

Notasbigasithink · Yesterday 23:31

Meltinghereokay · Yesterday 16:50

Dd, 7, told me today that the teacher told her she’d been naughty but she didn’t know why.
She said she had lots of papers with kids names on (around four names, including Dd’s ) and read out their names and said they had been very naughty today. She didn’t say why or what they’d done. Dd doesn’t know why and says she wasn’t told off for anything

Does this seem odd

Maybe she's in the running for being the next santa?! 🤷‍♀️

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