about not being asked if my dd is feeling better or have any good wishes sent

[cupsoftea]

I volunteer in a small team & couldn't do my turn this weekend as my dd of 8months was sick with a very high temperature. I let everyone know. So yesterday & today loads of routine type emails sent by the others (they all have kids) but no one has asked how things are going or sent any get better soon wishes.

Perhaps it's because it's the first time she's been sick & we had to have an emerg doc appointment & I've not slept for days but I think it's really unteam-spirited & uncaring not to ask.

thanks littlelapin xxx

it is scary - the thermometer would just keep going up & up. She's bf & sleeping at the moment & is blocked up today

No I don't think you are being unreasonable. It would be the first thing that I would ask but some people just don't seem to care anymore. I also think voluntary organisations can sometimes be the worse. Only because they find it so hard to get help, when they have it, they rely on it so much.

I hope your little one is better very soon. I am sure she will be.

I also think that perhaps you are tired with looking after your dd and that takes its toll on the emotions. Try and have a sit down and relax when she is asleep - its as tiring for the Mum as well as your daughter when she is not well.

It's horrid when they're ill like this--I remember it well and it's exhausting for them and you.

'tis true madmumsey - people are busy & forget. I'll have a rest soon - it's nice to mumsnet though (having a cup of tea & munchies as well)

Bridie3 - It's awful isn't it - I couldn't sleep but sort of lay next to her half awake. Hopefully the throwing up because of not being able to cough properly is finished!

I'd send em all an email along the lines of - dds feeling much better and I'll be back this weekend (amend as appropriate).

Doesn't acuse but reminds them they've been thoughtless gits, but then I can be VERY arsey if I feel I;ve been slighted

Hope dd is feeling better

good idea Pheebe - will do

I hope she is better soon - here is a bit cuddle from me to you both

thanks xxx

Don't take it personally. It won't be meant personally.
Hope she is better soon!

I hope she's much better. IME, people are thinking about the poorly one, but don't want to interrupt rest or sleep - sometimes they're thinking about you but are so busy that they can't immediately contact you. Hopefully they will do. Hope all picks up. x

MrsD & bramble - you're right people don't stop & think.

Just getting all the usual nice to see you at the weekend emails - just thought someone would think to write is littlecupsoftea feeling better as they all knew why I wouldn't be there.

Have just emailed them all!!!! saying hope things went well, sorry I could help out & that dd is feeling a bit better now

Did they reply?

How's dd?

update!! - got lots of emails on organization, summer hols dates & only one fellow volunteer asked after little cupsoftea.

At least dd is feeling better - no temp but coughing lots.

Have been thinking about not volunteering due to the attitude of some team members but it is good to have help the people I help & they are more important than my 'collegues'.

you are right to be a bit hacked off. It only takes a second to type some good wishes.

Glad dd bit better.

Have always found that temp thing really stressful, and DD would cough all night til she was sick (they have never been sure whether this was asthma or not - apparently it is hard to tell until they are older) but seems to have grown out of it (MsB touches wood frantically).

touching wood as well for your dd MsB xxx