to not want my 5 yr old ds to go boxing? would you?

[hayley2u]

sorry another post from me, my life is like a soap opera lol

ok so so my son loves to play box, but dont all boys?
so just has phone call of ex dps parents to ask y views on my ds who is 5 (6 next month) on him going boxing. i completly refused and aid over my dead body.
the exs dp's are against it, its ds dads idea.
i am against this i hate violence, and dont really want to introduce him to this life, plus he s still my baby and dont want him to get hurt. he 's quite timid anyway and his dad wants to toughen him up.
if he was much older andhe really wanted to do it fine id think on it although dont agree. but for now i am not budging
am i being unreasonable ?, whats your views would you let your child?

I think that as long as no one is bringing thier kids up like brightongirl its alrite.

what a terrible mother

Martial Art, perhaps, but not at 5. Boxing no, not any age.

fio, you say that, but you don't then go on to say, and he is a perfectly rounded, well adjusted member of society or he is a thug .

Molly, steady on - thats a bit personal - i think she is joking.

my family are all into boxing, the have little ones go, all they teach them is about fitness and how to hold their hands etc and how to punch bags with out breaking their hands, (there is a fracture known as the boxers fracture, but i have only seen it in teenage boys that punch walls or doors etc)
they all seem to enjoy it.
although my cousin that teachers the children is female, so maybe not as aggressive as a male teacher ??i dont know? she was the uk's first womens instructor bless her and shes only 5 ft

actually just looking at their site maybe he isnt old enough to join yet they start from 7 years old

for teenagers i think it can be good, but thats not really thinking into it too much or what id do if its mine. but as teenager it can sometimes be good( i think) as they not on the streets not getting into trouble and not underage drinking and keeping fit. but only if the child really wants to i suppose

thanks worley, thats bit better if he still wants to do it then i would think about it but the moment he done like it id have to take him away. i hate fighting but can i rallly stop him if that what he wants to do. so hard but at least i getanother years to think about it. but would rather he was in secondary school

hayley, could you not go along to the club and judge for yourself? Make it clear to ex-DH that you want to make sure you feel its an appropriate environment.

My friends dad used to teach boxing to young lads and he felt it was a really positive thing. It was certainly never taught to produce the next mike tyson or frank bruno. Just for exercise and self discipline.

Go on, let him go, it is better than him being stuck in front of the nintendo or playstation etc. Chances are, he will tire of it after a term any way. That way, you get bonus lovely mummy points for letting him go and he will enjoy himself. If he is going to grow up to be a little thug, he will, whether he goes boxing or not - in fact, i think the boxing will be more likely to make him the other way. Besides i looked at your profile and he looks to lovely to be a thug

wee took ds1 to a martial thing, kook sool won or something, (they were called baby dragons) and he wanted to do was mess around, i dont think he was really into it. so we left after a few weeks,
and he hasnt shown any interest in anything like that scince, i think he thought it was all going to fun and games not actually learning things!!

he much prefers cubs!!

lucyellen thanks for comment on ds pic!!
i wil have a good think on it, and talk to exdp about it.
what other clubs or groups do you take you r children to, think he d like to do ,more stuff

brightongirl

I don't have any martial arts training. When I was 3 (34 years ago) there was no such thing for children where I was living.

DD will start next year when she is 3, though. I have seen the effect it has on children's physique and self-confidence and its great.

Do you get your dd to commit random acts of mindless violence like brightongirl does?

hayley - With the other 'hayley', you share not only that distinctive writing style but also the sweet personality. It must be the name

they start them at three?? heavens thats early. Im thinking i'll wait, not because i dont agree with it, but its another group, more money!!

I have a DD but i take her to ballet, some boys go to that too. She is only three though. Would like her to do football or rugby though at some point.

I think there is a bit of snobbery surrounding the whole boxing thing as it does tend to be a working class thing. Don't know why. But i think that martial arts are often more violent really, i know they teach self defence and self discipline etc, but if you want to be pedantic about it, they are teaching techniques used to kill. I don't care what you say, but when my DP practises with his samuri sword, i don;t think he thinks he is doing something artistic, even though it is visually very pleasing . He doesnt do it anymore though Mind you, he was taught that by a fransiscan monk

Does she molly? blimey

Fio, my friends dad is not a "fighter" either. Neither is his son, who is now a grown man.

Yeah she's a strange one lucyellen,

so what's wrong with boxing then?

Oh here we go, are you another mum that wants her child involved in violence?

jesus no

I would be quite happy if my DD wanted to do it.

Where we live kids can start 'baby karate' at the age of 3. They learn about balance, movements, and it does wonders for their coordination & confidence.

am i the olny one on here who thinks that boxing doesnt equate violence?
i might get my words mixed up as i am not very good at explaining myself, but violence to me is something done out of malice, spite, actually wanting to hurt someone.
boxing is a sport, shown on national television. you need great courage and discipline to be a boxer.

boxing and fighting is two differnet things.

no boxer wants to acutally phisically hurt, or do any lasting damage to the other. it is just a competition.

it keeps troublesome kids on the straight and narrow, teaching them control.

i know i will get flamed for saying this but it is just my opinion.

i would never force any child of mine to commit an act of violence, or to go somewhere they dont want to go. but if my dd showed an interest in boxing/martial arts/ or stamp collecting, i would go for myself to check it out and support her.