To ask you to put my mind at rest regarding room sharing?

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I’ve just found out that we are expecting twins and my brain is already in overdrive. We already have 1DC and were only planning on 2 children, so despite being very excited about twins I’m really nervous about the practicalities. We live in a 3 bed duplex apartment so our twins will need to share and I’m just wondering how sustainable that would be?. We could potentially renovate in the future (after saving a lot!) but can’t and don’t really want to move any time soon, so they’d have to share for a while. I don’t know why I’m stressing so much as I don’t see a huge problem with children sharing rooms but I’m worried they may not be happy as their sister would have her own room and on the flip side I’m worried DD would feel left out that she’s on her own!. Please put my silly hormonal brain to rest and assure me that it’s fine!

That’s life
it will be what they grow up with and get used to
loads of kids share- it’s ok

You must know other people that shared rooms OP? And they’re twins, they will be fine. I’m not surprised your brain is panicking a bit as twins is a shock, but it will be fine!

We had ours separate and then put them in together temporarily to redecorate one of the rooms. They slept better and love it so they've stayed that way. Simple jealously limiter is that the twins get the biggest room and the single the smallest (and you probably the second biggest unless it's an ensuite). If not same sex twins then they can mix and match anyway. Plus it's going to be a long time until they are in a room by themselves anyway.

Sharing is just a fact of life for many. I'm sure you'll do what you can for them, for example there are creative ways to create more privacy if that's what they want.

Do you know if the twins are the same gender? Because your dd might end up sharing with one as mixing genders isn't when they're teenagers.

I think twins would love to share. They will be the same age obviously so doing the same things. There was 5 girls in one room in my mums house growing up and 4 boys in another room. They all lived! How exciting OP, I would have loved twins

It isn’t ideal but not the end of the world.

I grew up sharing with my sister and I despised it but it didn’t do me any harm.

All three of my children have their own bedroom now but my 9 and 7 year old sons choose to share anyway so my youngest room is essentially a dressing room with a bed.

It maybe worth starting to plan for a larger house now though for when they are teenagers, if you could afford it.

Congrats and they'll be completely fine sharing x

It depends what they’re like really. Lots of children share but some aren’t able to very well. We thought ours would share but our older dd is being assessed for ASD and ADHD and really can’t share with her sibling.

Why is it not ideal? Millions of kids share and it does them no harm.
Congratulations op.

Let’s not romanticise the idea of 9 children sharing two rooms. Really. That isn’t acceptable. Not now.

Two kids sharing a room, that’s fine. They’ll be fine OP.

That’s exactly what I said. It doesn’t do them any harm, that doesn’t make it a preference though does it?

You ask 95% of children/ teenagers if they want to share a room or have their own. They will say their own.

Again - people have to live within their means and it simply isn’t possible for some children to have their own room. That’s fine - as I said it doesn’t them no harm.

It isn’t a criticism. It’s just a fact. Sharing a bedroom isn’t a problem but for most it isn’t the ideal.

Our twins had their own rooms - but always slept in the same room and left one room empty! They’ll be fine.

My kids (both girls) have always shared. They could have a room each but they chose to share a room and use the other room as a playroom. It's very natural to them and TBH it's a lot easier doing bedtime.

My 2 elder Gdcs each officially have their own room, but they never stay on their own at bedtime. They were born only 15 months apart (G/B) and were always very close, so I dare say that makes a difference. Presumably twins will be even closer!