Advice please. Following on from my previous post. I won't go into specifics but husband was arrested on Thursday. I called the police as he slapped me forcefully 3 times after I went to slap him. Yes I did react but there has been a history of emotional and now financial abuse.
He is on bail conditions not to contact me or come to our house.
We have 2 kids together so to arrange child contact it has to be done through his mother.
She is not a great person to communicate to. Likes to drink alot and forgetful.
They normally go to her house for tea on a Sunday, which was tonight & ex husband is now living with her. I arranged to drop them off, I thought they would be staying there and it was his brother who came out to get the kids from my car. They are only 1 & 4 and dont really know him so were worried about going with him so it was quite distressing leaving them. I told them id collect them at 6.30.
15 minutes before that time I text his mum to say I was setting off and she rang me to say they are not here. I said where are they she said 'gone to so & so's, I think'
I said i was not told of that and you know how i feel about him. He had gone to friends house with the children who has been sectioned a number of times in the past few years. He now lives with his mum and thats who's house they'd gone to. I do not like this friend who's house he goes to. As I say he in mentally not sane and on medication and last time my ex went out with him last week and our 1 year old, my ex lost our babies pram and everything in it. God knows how. He has no recollection of it.
I said to her you did not make me aware of this I am due to pick them up now. I was so angry.
She rang me back 5 minutes later and she didnt know i had answered. I could hear her saying ' ill tell her at they are at the park to make her feel better'
I was fuming
She came on the phone and said 'oh they're just at the park can you come at 6.45'
I said ive just heard you why are you lying to me about where my children are!
She pretended to act innocent and put the phone down on me.
I got in my car and drove down to the house the brother answered and said ' hes getting them changed' they had clearly just got in from somewhere.
I said i need to speak to ur mum she denied it all and started screaming at me and saying she never said that and that they haven't been to '' house they had been to the park.
On the way home my 4 year old son told me they did indeed go to that house and had their tea there.
I feel so hurt and lied to and like I cant trust any of them. I dont want to stop my ex seeing the children. The children do love him and i could never stop them from seeing him. But I can't carry on like this. I dont want them going to that house and how can I trust where she says they are??