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To deny neighbour access to render extension?

283 replies

Amberlynnswashcloth · 31/05/2026 12:34

Semi detached neighbours are building extension within millimeters of the shared fence allowing no access from their own property for maintenance. Predictibly, they now want access to my garden to render the outside and to do this they would need to remove the fence and everything near the fence like my seating area, storage box, potted plants etc. I don't want to agree to this. There's the inconvenience of not being able to use our garden, DCs wont be able to play outside and I'd have to keep the dog in. My main issue is that the layout of the houses means the wall is literally right outside my kitchen/livingroom window which feels really close and intrusive and when people are working on it they are literally looking right at me sitting in my house. I don't want workman coming any closer into our space - we are trying to enjoy the nice weather and it's been quite disruptive as it is.

Anyone had experience with this? Its really stressing me out as I don't like to be deliberately obstructive but I strongly don't want to agree to this and feel it's not my problem to solve. I accept that refusal might mean forever looking at an ugly wall but I plan to grow something climbing to mask it.

They are waiting for an answer.

AIBU to say 'no'?

Edited to add that they don't want access right now - just at some point.

OP posts:
Pinkfuchsia · 01/06/2026 14:22

Amberlynnswashcloth · 31/05/2026 12:34

Semi detached neighbours are building extension within millimeters of the shared fence allowing no access from their own property for maintenance. Predictibly, they now want access to my garden to render the outside and to do this they would need to remove the fence and everything near the fence like my seating area, storage box, potted plants etc. I don't want to agree to this. There's the inconvenience of not being able to use our garden, DCs wont be able to play outside and I'd have to keep the dog in. My main issue is that the layout of the houses means the wall is literally right outside my kitchen/livingroom window which feels really close and intrusive and when people are working on it they are literally looking right at me sitting in my house. I don't want workman coming any closer into our space - we are trying to enjoy the nice weather and it's been quite disruptive as it is.

Anyone had experience with this? Its really stressing me out as I don't like to be deliberately obstructive but I strongly don't want to agree to this and feel it's not my problem to solve. I accept that refusal might mean forever looking at an ugly wall but I plan to grow something climbing to mask it.

They are waiting for an answer.

AIBU to say 'no'?

Edited to add that they don't want access right now - just at some point.

If you’re talking about mm’s surely that means part of the roof could overhang the boundary & that they may need further access for future maintenance?

dh280125 · 01/06/2026 14:24

ClayPotaLot · 31/05/2026 18:35

The 3m distance is distance to your foundations, not the boundary (there is a 6m rule as well if they are digging deep - but I believe this is unlikely for permitted development) . They only need to leave a few centimeters gap between their building and the boundary.

Yep, the actual rule I believe is they are required to serve a PWN if excavating for new foundations within 3 metres of your building AND proposed foundations will be deeper than the bottom of their existing foundations. Do you have a pic if the foundation work?

Roselilly36 · 01/06/2026 14:54

I would usually have given permission without a second thought… until my neighbours workman absolutely wreaked my mature hedge, and trampled my plants. We lost the hedge, as it was cut at the roots, cost of quite a bit to buy replacement plants to fill the space. NO WAY would I ever give permission again.

Weeellokthen · 01/06/2026 14:57

Whowhatwhere21 · 31/05/2026 14:56

I have always been the person to say yes to these kind of things as my thought would be, I'm inconvenienced for a couple of days and i can live with that. However, from personal experience I would never say yes again.

I had a slightly different situation where my fence and gate needed to come out for a neighbour to build their balcony. I was told it would be a day. It was 3 days, no fence up, I have a dog who I couldn't let out. I came home from work on day 3 to the neighbours new balcony 10cm across the boundary into my garden, my fence posts removed, my fence panel now screwed to their balcony by 4 screws, and my gate also 10cm across the boundary screwed into a post with 2 screws. And a shit load of dried concrete all over my patio. That was 2 years ago and its still the same as the day the builder left as the neighbours don't give a shit.
They should have checked with you before starting work if its important to them. That's now my view.

😮

tommyhoundmum · 01/06/2026 15:13

holachicatita · 31/05/2026 12:44

I'd just let them. It'll be inconvenient but sometimes in life things are. I'd rather be a good neighbour than be deliberately awkward.

But they haven't been a good neighbour building right up to the fence. I wonder who is responsible for the fence. I would agree to the work but would ask it be done later in the year, perhaps Autumn and they agree to replace everything properly

hellotomrw · 01/06/2026 15:16

Say they can but in September as you want to enjoy your garden in the summer?

Applecup · 01/06/2026 15:18

rwalker · 31/05/2026 13:21

Permitted development so its single story
your working yourself up into a larther over this
I’ve been both the person building and the neighbour never once did it cross my mind to be awkward for the sake of it
very doubtful if not impossible they could do it from above they’d be in The airspace of your garden so it would cone across as nothing more than being obstructive
your clearly pissed off they built it in the first place but that’s life
if your worried about light a grey unfinished wall will be a lot duller than a rendered one

my friend had a similar access issue and neighbour was extremely awkward
and wouldn’t let them

and they spray painted graffiti from above and that’s now the view for the neighbour from there kitchen

How petty.

Applecup · 01/06/2026 15:21

If you give permission this once you don't know where it will end. I would certainly tell them you are thinking about it over the Summer. Don't make things easy. They made their bed...

PloddingAlong21 · 01/06/2026 15:24

Think it’s a bit mean personally. Will look much better after, better for when you sell it. Won’t last long.

VeronicaRaven · 01/06/2026 15:35

Amberlynnswashcloth · 31/05/2026 17:32

Strangly, they never mentioned that they were planning an extension. I thought they were getting their garden done then found out from a neighbour that it was foundations for extension. No real reason not to mention it as its permitted development so I've got no right to object anyway. Was annoyed mostly about the sudden noise and mess with no warning. I know they've been in my garden already and I've caught the builders climbing on the fence. I just hope I don't come home to find the fence down and garden wrecked. I've taken photos. I'm finding it quite stressful.

You need to get yourself a CCTV camera of some description and points in the direction of the fence.
I was about to say let them but when you said they go to your property without permission and climbing the fence... I'm not surprised you don't trust them.

Whattodo1610 · 01/06/2026 15:49

Quite honestly, I’d be ringing the council and asking for an onsite meeting so they can check all is above board first, before anything.

changenameagain555 · 01/06/2026 15:50

What happens if you decided to build an extension in the future up to the boundary. They wouldn't be able to access the wall then to redo the render. It seems a silly choice of building materials.

TheresAsilverLiningInTheSkyee · 01/06/2026 16:14

I would absolutely not agree to this OP. They should only have built something that could be fully erected and maintained from within their own property boundaries.

I'm not sure of the law outside of Scotland where I live, but when I had a similar situation with a very difficult neighbour, the legal advice I was given was that anything about access for maintenance etc in the title deeds only applied to what was there when the deeds were first drawn up, meaning subsequent extensions with new or different requirements for access for erection and /or maintenance were not covered and could only be requested on a "good will" basis from the disadvantaged neighbour. My lawyer advised me not to agree as any damage caused could be a nightmare to get put right and could involve going to court.

As you already know your neighbours are not careful and you need to have a fence removed for this rendering to be completed I think it's entirely reasonable to say no. Going forward they could also want to paint or otherwise maintain this wall from your property at regular intervals.

I was lucky in that my neighbour did need planning permission for their proposed extension, so I had the chance to object on various grounds, one being the fact that access over my garden was required to build it and I would not be granting that. The permission was refused and the neighbour had to rethink their plans.

Probably should say that before this my relationship with my neighbour had already irretrievably broken down due to the CF neighbour blocking a legal right of access I actually did have, over their property. I had to go to court to get that reinstated!

Namenamchange · 01/06/2026 16:19

Are you happy with how it looks now?

My dad said no to something very similar, and it’ looks awful. Things is they don’t see it their side only us.

PinkTonic · 01/06/2026 16:21

If they built it so close to the fence they should have used bricks that wouldn’t need rendering and ongoing maintenance. Inconsiderate and entitled!

FreeWillFever · 01/06/2026 16:23

holachicatita · 31/05/2026 12:44

I'd just let them. It'll be inconvenient but sometimes in life things are. I'd rather be a good neighbour than be deliberately awkward.

Good answer, me too

SignGrudgeBluebook · 01/06/2026 16:23

YourPoliteTurtle · 31/05/2026 14:59

These people always are CF, they push their own boundaries as much as they could because they assume they can then use somebody else's property for access and maintenance.

What happens if the OP decides to build an extension within millimetres of the fence too? They won't have access either. They just count on the neighbour having to suck it up, and being now unable to build an extension themselves.

I thought all building work had to have a clear meter for this sort of thing?

Is it worth checking the plans to see if they conform?

ThisOneLife · 01/06/2026 16:25

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 31/05/2026 12:46

If you need access to do essential work on your own property (like painting, repairing a roof, or fixing a wall), you have two main routes:

Ask for Permission: Always try talking to your neighbour first. If they agree, get it in writing.

The Access to Neighbouring Land Act 1992: If they refuse, you can apply to the County Court for an Access Order. A judge can grant this if the work is essential for the preservation of your house and cannot be done otherwise.

Is their work essential?
Doubt it.

So sounds like they're stuffed and you effectively can hold them to ransom if you want to. Not necessarily good for future relations though.

However, if you choose to allow them to, you can make it contingent on payment for your disruption. How much is a conversation to be had between yourselves but payment is a classic way of resolving disputes.

Tender is essential for a house to make it waterproof!

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 01/06/2026 16:28

SignGrudgeBluebook · 01/06/2026 16:23

I thought all building work had to have a clear meter for this sort of thing?

Is it worth checking the plans to see if they conform?

No they don't.You can build right up to the boundary, even under permitted development but you are meant to put a party wall agreement in place. But if you don't do o a party wall agreement there is literally no come back at all.

The Party Wall Handbook is an edifying read on the matter.

This exact situation with my neighbour nearly did for me. People can be utter cunts, I moved in the end.

SignGrudgeBluebook · 01/06/2026 16:35

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 01/06/2026 16:28

No they don't.You can build right up to the boundary, even under permitted development but you are meant to put a party wall agreement in place. But if you don't do o a party wall agreement there is literally no come back at all.

The Party Wall Handbook is an edifying read on the matter.

This exact situation with my neighbour nearly did for me. People can be utter cunts, I moved in the end.

Ahh thanks. We left a clear metre and that was next to a field. We still asked for permission to put the outriggers of the scaffolding in the farmers field and he agreed.

I think I would just allow it provided I had an agreement for the householder (not the tradesmen) to make good in the event of damage and took lots of photos of the 'before'.

You never know when you might need your neighbours goodwill. I have a NDN on the other side and if I saw his house was on fire in the night I wouldn't ring him. He pulled a prank showing off in front of visitors 20 years ago and nearly killed my dog in the process. He has never said sorry and I haven't spoken to him to this day and I have always made an effort to get along with my NDNs.

Life's too short to say no IMHO.

MabelAnderson · 01/06/2026 16:46

Amberlynnswashcloth · 31/05/2026 13:09

Thanks for all your views.

It's within permitted development so no opportunity to object to anything despite this blocking out my light.

Not planning to grow anything on their wall - just on my side.

Although awkward (and expensive) for them, I wonder if there is a way of doing it from above or using some telescopic tool to access the space between their wall and our fence from their side?

If I agreed to let them and set specific times and ground rules should this be done informally or ask them to get legal papers? Would that be OTT? I just don't trust them and other things have happened that tell me they don't take a lot of care with other people's property. I don't like them, honestly, but I make the effort to be neighbourly and considerate. They don't give a hoot.

I thought you couldn’t build any closer than a metre from the boundary ?
Our old neighbour built exactly a metre from us in spite of having a huge plot to play with. Such a shitty thing to do. They also then asked us to let them put scaffolding in our garden to work on their build. I reluctantly agreed, but actually wished that I’d said no, as the scaffolding was there for well over a year, possibly two, and they trampled all over my plants.

Tortephant · 01/06/2026 16:55

OP would insist on an RICS party wall surveyor draw up an agreement and “manage” this part eg the fence render and so on. This person are visits to ensure all fair and done properly. Protecting both of you.

BeOchreDog · 01/06/2026 16:59

Have you checked your deeds? Lots of properties have rights to maintain their property from a neighbouring property.

Aluna · 01/06/2026 17:11

What’s the party wall situation? Is the height within the single story restriction? (3-4m), Is there a gap for drainage? What is the drainage plan? While there be any roof or gutter overhang?

Itsallthebsame · 01/06/2026 17:32

Amberlynnswashcloth · 31/05/2026 13:09

Thanks for all your views.

It's within permitted development so no opportunity to object to anything despite this blocking out my light.

Not planning to grow anything on their wall - just on my side.

Although awkward (and expensive) for them, I wonder if there is a way of doing it from above or using some telescopic tool to access the space between their wall and our fence from their side?

If I agreed to let them and set specific times and ground rules should this be done informally or ask them to get legal papers? Would that be OTT? I just don't trust them and other things have happened that tell me they don't take a lot of care with other people's property. I don't like them, honestly, but I make the effort to be neighbourly and considerate. They don't give a hoot.

Our new neighbours planned a massive extension and didn't want to listen to any of our concerns so we had a PARTY WALL agreement put in place. It didn't cost us anything, as the neighbours have to pay and they were much nicer to us after this.

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