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To love A&E despite the wait?

136 replies

HotTiredDog · 30/05/2026 22:54

Over 9 hours in a very busy city A&E today with DM, following a fall at home.
They have established that her heart is fine, lots of good blood stuff, X-rays of queries and carried out dressing of wounds.
This was free at the point of need & was carried out by amazing professionals, with the utmost care & thoughtfulness.
Seriously, 9 hours was nothing for all this attention, not really.
The tragedy was on the MH side, with some seriously unwell folk who couldn’t be given the care they so desperately need - I dearly wanted to help but had no way of doing so.
I am so proud of & grateful for the people of A&E. We must keep it safe.

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Sirzy · 31/05/2026 09:15

Anarchy99 · 31/05/2026 09:09

We have urgent care here too and it works quite well ime

I think part of the issue though is the urgent care/OOH system is so patchy. If there was a consistent system across the country I think that would help a lot.

Some people are time wasters, some people don’t know where to go, some are struggling to get a GP appointment. I doubt many people turn up to sit at a and e for the fun of it even if they don’t really need to be there.

We need to get the basics right of access to care through pharmacy and GP and then we will be able to improve everything else. But while that basic layer is failing nothing else can work.

worldsgonemadnow · 31/05/2026 09:16

concertinacornflake · 31/05/2026 08:36

No, YABU and your standards are too low.

Nine hours is far too long to wait. Only 15 years ago it was very rare to wait more than four hours.

The people who staff A&E do not think nine hours is acceptable, because it isn't.

They didn't wait 9 hours. Her mum was seen, treated abd discharged in 9 hours. Thats very different from waiting for 9 hours to be seen.

x2boys · 31/05/2026 09:17

Lemonymint · 31/05/2026 09:10

I will never understand why British eulogise the National Health Service and actually celebrate a 9 hour wait. I mean I know there is the Dunkirk spirit and all that but why do you put up with these kind of developing world conditions? My son, a doctor, nearly fell over laughing when I suggested he might try working in the UK. Just think about who is prepared to work in these conditions.

Developng world conditions?
The NHS has many many faults but its ridiculous to suggest conditions are like the third world.

andnowwhatdowedo · 31/05/2026 09:17

Glad you got good treatment in A and E. Many people don't and are made worse by waiting 9 hours. The whole system is deeply flawed. There are some great individuals working there.

youalright · 31/05/2026 09:20

The biggest issue is lack of beds due to people not being able to be discharged due to lack of social care so its completely normal in my local a&e to be waiting around 30/40 hours for a bed while sitting in a&e

x2boys · 31/05/2026 09:22

Ohdearnotthisagain · 31/05/2026 09:06

To be honest, that’s terrible!

Im in Australia and I’ve never waited more than forty minutes for me or a sick child to be triaged. Then the actual care for the broken bone etc. might take another hour for the xray, cast etc.

We have an urgent care system in NSW which I think really helps. It’s where you go when you are too sick or hurt for a doctor but not quite A&E. Open 24/7. They can do stitches, help with croup, xray and make casts for broken bones, put dehydrated kids on drips for stomach bugs. It keeps A&E free for serious emergencies.

We have a minor injury section at my nearest A&E and also a GP service
Aa well as the emergency department.

worldsgonemadnow · 31/05/2026 09:24

dizzydizzydizzy · 31/05/2026 09:02

i’m glad you have had a good experience, OP. A GP sent me to A&E in January. I came out of there feeling much worse than when I went in because the Advanced Nurse Practitioner I saw treated me like a neurotic time-waster. She shouted at me and every time I tried to ask her a question, she talked over me and wouldn’t let me get to the end of the sentence. She told me that my symptoms were caused by diabetes. I tried to
tell her that I had had numerous blood tests for diabetes, including very recently, and they were all well within the normal range but she wouldn’t listen and continued to give me advice as if I had diabetes. Luckily, I had the sense to ignore her advice because once my problem was further investigated, I was actually given the opposite advice. If I had followed the nurse’s advice, I would have got worse. The nurse could have found out that I didn’t have diabetes by looking at my records but she didn’t bother and just assumed. No idea why any medical professional would just assume that when it is easily checked with a blood test.

I wrote a complaint to PALS. A few days later the consultant in charge of A&E phoned me and apologised profusely.

The sad thing is, prior to that, I went to the same A&E around summer 2023. I had a very similar experience and again I complained and the consultant in charge apologized. Apologizing is nice but it is not much good if nothing changes. I am actually now fairly scared to go to that A&E. I have no confidence that they would look after me.

Its often quite helpful to ask the practitioner for their name, and a copy of the complaints procedure when in the kind of situation you were, even when you know tgeir bame and how to make a complaint. It can give them pause for thought and allow them to get their brain and mouth back online.

turkeyboots · 31/05/2026 09:26

Where you in A&E for 9 hours in total or did you wait 9 hours to be seen? My mother had a fall, we waited 20 mins for triage where she was give painkillers, another 30 for a doctor to see her and a decision was made to admit after x-ray, ct scan and bloods within 3 hours. Took forever to get her a bed on the ward though. And all also "free" in Ireland.

My MiL won't go to her local hospital in Wales anymore after spending 12hours in a waiting room after a car crash. That was also "free".

Saywhatnowhey · 31/05/2026 09:27

It's great you've had such a positive experience but I can't say the same sadly.

My elderly mother has advanced Alzheimer's, osteoporosis and breast cancer. She has had to be taken to A&E twice within the last 8 months. First time was at the end of last summer when she fell and smashed her forehead open and fractured her neck. Despite knowing she had advanced dementia, unable to talk, was in pain, very very confused and disorentated they left us for hours on our own and every medical professional who came to see us was a different person each time, they never read her notes properly and didn't realise each time she had dementia so I had to keep explaining and explaining, after 18 hours she was eventually taken on to a ward which was a complete disaster (but a whole other story).

Second time was in February this year, mum developed an infection of unknown origin. Again same scenario as before, no one reads her notes properly and we had to explain every sodding time that mum couldn't understand what they were saying and can not talk as she is in advanced dementia. This time we had a 36 hour wait on a trolley in a corridor. My elderly father and my sister both contracted norovirus from there so two down it was down to me to deal with alone and it was awful. Every trolley had a very elderly person on, many with dementia and on their own (one from a care home who had come with no one to advocate for her), it was so so depressing.

So I'm sorry to say that I haven't had the same positive experience but then again our local hospital has a poor rating and crap reviews, perhaps yours is more efficiently run?

Boomer55 · 31/05/2026 09:29

SmallandSpanish · 30/05/2026 23:48

Yes. You got seen. But it wasn’t free. We are taxed for it and it’s incredibly poor in terms of service and experience in comparison to the treatment in other countries. We’ve been sold this ‘amazing NHS’ rubbish as part of our culture but when you go away and see how other countries do it, we are leagues behind. It’s embarrassing and pathetic.

This. Our so called ‘free and wonderful NHS” is a myth. It’s an expensive shitstorm. 🙄

WeatherOrNothing · 31/05/2026 09:32

You are so gaslit to think 9 hours is something you feel grateful for.

EasternStandard · 31/05/2026 09:51

9 hours is so long. We had an ankle x-ray faster than that for dc tg

WhatNextImScared · 31/05/2026 09:56

ToffeeCrabApple · 30/05/2026 23:04

Yanbu.

Took DS in gasping for breath with croup. Got him in the door. The staff clocked him immediately & it was action stations, kid can't breathe, there was no waiting, he was seen & got steroids in minutes.

DD as a baby - went in getting grey/working hard to breathe. Seen fast.

Ime they see who needs to be seen & they see them fast. The only times we've not been seen within 30 mins:

  1. first occasion: i arrived in an ambulance & was left a bit unattended for 2 hours, by which point there was blood pretty much everywhere. The consultant went berserk that i'd been left bleeding profusely after a miscarriage for too long & was v apologetic & got me sorted v quickly
  2. second occasion: realised afterwards we probably shouldn't have been at a&e. I'd been sent there by 111.

When you need to be there, generally you get seen & sorted fast.

I would say (and sorry to all the doctors/nurses) that the difference in care if you arrive on a weekday vs a weekend is a bit scary. It should be the same staffing 24/7.

Edited

This is what everyone forgets. If you’re not seen immediately, you will be supported but it’s a good sign.

i have kids under lots of specialists and things go wrong now and again so we’ve been in a&e too many times… mostly there has been quite a wait but one time my then 11 month old had sepsis and she was on an antibiotic drip within 20 mins of arriving.

dizzydizzydizzy · 31/05/2026 10:19

worldsgonemadnow · 31/05/2026 09:24

Its often quite helpful to ask the practitioner for their name, and a copy of the complaints procedure when in the kind of situation you were, even when you know tgeir bame and how to make a complaint. It can give them pause for thought and allow them to get their brain and mouth back online.

Good point! Although I was there alone, so the power balance was very much against me. I felt so dismissed and trampled upon, I would not have plucked up tbe courage to say something like that. I went home and thought about it for a couple of days and discussed it with others and then decided I had definitely been badly treated. I am single but I suspect if I’d had a partner or DC with me, especially a male, I would have been treated far better. It’s a sad state of affairs. I am polite, always thank people etc.

HotTiredDog · 31/05/2026 10:38

To clarify:
Total time in A&E: 9 hours.
Triaged within 20 mins.
Within that time, there were:
4 sets of observations
one review with consultant
bloods & ecg
one set of X-rays
two consultations with registrars
one treatment by nurse.

I would not have been so enthusiastic if DM had waited 9 hours for triage or indeed anything else on that list!

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BlueSkiesAndSunshiiine · 31/05/2026 10:47

Our local Urgent Care is ok and takes patients who aren't quite at A&E level such as minor illnesses and injuries.

ThePlover · 31/05/2026 10:52

ClawsandEffect · 31/05/2026 00:55

My experience of A&E in Spain while living there. Signed in, seen, diagnosed, treated and on my way home in the middle of Saturday night. All within 2 hours. And they spoke to me in clear English due to my woeful Spanish speaking.

And in the UK, Newcastle, waited 11 hours, problem was dismissed by the doctor I eventually saw (despite being later diagnosed as a wound infection) without any real examination.

I'm older and I live in terror of needing to go to hospital in the UK.

I have experienced Spanish and UK A&E.
In the Spanish one I was seen by a doctor within minutes (there was no one else in the waiting room). Treated with various drugs, x rayed and discharged about 90 minutes later. The place was shabby and run down, much like a British hospital and there was no English spoken and my Spanish isn't great but that's my problem not a criticism. This cost me nothing as is paid for under reciprocal agreement.
I've been to a UK A&E several times.
Once with DS after an accident, he was treated and blue lighted to another hospital within an hour.
Once by ambulance taken straight into majors where they dealt with me efficiently but then I waited hours for a bed to be admitted.
Once during covid when I was sent in by a doctor but had to spend hours on a trolley.
More recently again sent by my doctor, triaged and sent to the SDEC. Lots of tests and discharged after three hours.
No complaints really, maybe I was lucky in the timing. It's a small DGH near the bottom in the rankings.

mondaytosunday · 31/05/2026 10:56

@Vinvertebrategoing to A&E was when my DD’s MS was picked up after three years at another hospital doing test after test and head scratching.

Anarchy99 · 31/05/2026 11:07

WhatNextImScared · 31/05/2026 09:56

This is what everyone forgets. If you’re not seen immediately, you will be supported but it’s a good sign.

i have kids under lots of specialists and things go wrong now and again so we’ve been in a&e too many times… mostly there has been quite a wait but one time my then 11 month old had sepsis and she was on an antibiotic drip within 20 mins of arriving.

Babies and children automatically get priority though

Sirzy · 31/05/2026 11:13

Anarchy99 · 31/05/2026 11:07

Babies and children automatically get priority though

They don’t. When they are triaged they will of course take into account the fact that as babies and children they can deteriorate more quickly but they don’t automatically get seen before others.

littlemousebigcheese · 31/05/2026 11:22

the problem is that so many of the people complaining just don’t need to be there. Time after time people say they waited x amount of hours, gave up and went home. When an and e is used properly it’s great but popping in with a sore throat slows everything down. We need better mental health care, more ooh gps, 111 doing more than telling everyone to go to a and e etc

Anarchy99 · 31/05/2026 11:30

littlemousebigcheese · 31/05/2026 11:22

the problem is that so many of the people complaining just don’t need to be there. Time after time people say they waited x amount of hours, gave up and went home. When an and e is used properly it’s great but popping in with a sore throat slows everything down. We need better mental health care, more ooh gps, 111 doing more than telling everyone to go to a and e etc

We need more of everything but the first thing is a joined up communication system. I got sick of having to explain to a nurse what meds I was on, her English wasn’t great so we couldn’t understand each other very well (not her fault, she did her best) then explain to every medical person that came to see me what the issue was, then explaining to my GP a couple of days later…

I honestly think that if I am ever sent to A&E by my GP again, I will take my chances and not go. If that has a negative outcome then so be it. I can’t even watch news items on corridor care without shaking

MrListerSir · 31/05/2026 11:31

I disagree, OP. I think 9 hours is appalling. The UK has awful emergency care, long waits, exhausted, burned out, uncaring staff (in my experience). I dread having to go there for any reason at all.

What I cannot understand is how anyone can justify long waits in often dirty overcrowded hospitals. It's clear to me you haven't lived in any other countries OP - it would blow your mind to see how good emergency healthcare can be.

I'd love to be able to pay for a private A&E! The NHS is an absolute disgrace.

littlemousebigcheese · 31/05/2026 11:32

same @Anarchy99im so terrified of needing to use a and e I just wouldn’t go. It’s mostly the elderly who are left in pain and with no one to advocate for them. With people living longer maybe we need to invest in medical centres focused on older people with specially trained nurses