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To wonder why this is 'common'?

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Ellbee83 · 30/05/2026 18:41

I live in an end-terrace house, with a small front yard/garden which I've made as nice as I can with plants, garden furniture, a few fairy lights.
It's south-facing so for (literally!) a few months of the year when the weather allows, if I'm at home and not busy, it's lovely to sit out in the morning with a coffee, or in the evening with a book & glass of wine.
It's genuinely one of my simple pleasures, it's nice to watch the world go by, smile at passers-by, idly chat with the neighbours if they're around but mostly 100% minding my own business and enjoying my own outdoor space.

Yesterday evening, my neighbour (72f) from 3 doors down went past, walking her dogs. She stopped to chat as we often do - the weather, how the flowers are doing, that sort of thing, nothing major! She then went on to tell me how she wouldn't dream of sitting out in her front garden as she'd been taught it was 'common'. I laughed in surprise and said 'Oh, am I being common?' to which she laughingly agreed I was!

Now, tbh, I found it waaaay more common that she'd be so rude but I'm curious - is sitting out in the sun, in your own front garden seen as 'common'?
Not too bothered either way and I'll carry on doing it but I've restricted myself to the back garden today 🫤

Interested to hear opinions!

OP posts:
Sartre · 01/06/2026 06:39

It is traditionally viewed as common yes but I don’t see an issue at all provided you’re not sitting there practically naked sunbathing or blasting tinny music of course! Your set up actually sounds quite lovely.

ticklyfeet · 01/06/2026 07:55

Longdarkcloud · 30/05/2026 20:48

When visiting a friend in San Francisco a few years back I commented on the absence of clothes lines and received a strange look and was told it was considered totally not on. I think in some areas Neighbourhood Associations forbid their use as it lowers the tone.
Ihadn’t thought about what constituted common for years but now the memories come flooding back. Guess then certain customs are no longer useful they just get dropped.
My mother ( born in 1920) felt the use of dummies was common.

When my first baby was born in the early 1980s my mother was horrified when I mentioned the word "dummy". I could see it took all her composure not to slap me!

"It's a baby's soother, not a dummy...you do realise that's short for dummy tit! You and I will have a major fall out if I hear you call it that again."
Some people are just mental. 🤷‍♀️

omghereistrouble · Yesterday 09:13

well i was always told that but if you are ok then carry on. same as do not hang washing out the front but if that is all you have so be it.
A few years ago I lived in a rough part of the city and there used to be the 'chavs' who would sit on there doorsteps morning to bed time and always in pjs! you had to walk up the road to wait for the bus and i am not sure who was more scary these women in pjs, the men in half mast shorts beer bellies on display or the feral kids running riot!

justasking111 · Yesterday 15:01

I seem to recall that you didn't hang washing out on a Sunday. But that was the day of garden bonfire so might have been a sensible move.

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