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To make a complaint against HA because of constant anti social behaviour from neighbours?

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housinglass · 29/05/2026 23:07

I have written about the is before but I am at my wit's end with my ongoing situation.

I have lived in my HA house since December 2024 and from day 1 (these are new builds & everyone moved in the same time) two neighbours have literally walked straight onto my driveway from one house to another and walked past my living room window multiple times a day as well as their kids.

They were already friends as prior to moving here and managed to secure a house on the same street by pure luck.

It got really bad that I paid over £300 for some big planters which temporarily stopped all this.

But the kids would/will still ride up and down on their bikes/ scooters the other side but it wasn't right near my living room window.

My neighbour's plants were planted just before my driveway so she often is on my driveway and right near my front door tending to her plants.

I know this isn't her fault as it's the way the houses were designed but it really makes me feel uncomfortable and as if I have no privacy.

The other day her and another neighbour were back and forth on that side of the driveway doing some weeding. She can stick to her own side but for some reason chooses to come over onto my bit.

The planters actually fell during the extreme winds and I have had to move them as they almost fell on my neighbours car.
These are those big trellis planters.

Since the planters have been moved it's all back to square one again.
Convos by my living room window standing on my drive way.

I have told them and the kids so many times that it's my privacy and your standing by my window but it still happens.

I contacted my Housing Officer and she came down and stood outside and told me "well it can happen anywhere, maybe you should try to private rent" and walked off.
All this was captured on my neighbours Ring door bell as she asked me about it.
There was no discretion in her visit to address these issues.

The driveway is allocated to my house and is not a communal area at all.

I spoke to a customer service advisor the other day on the Customer Services number for my HA and she was astonished at what I am experiencing and at the lack of support form my HO.

She advised me to re register back with the Local Authority which I now have done and waiting to hear if I have been accepted.

I really want to make a complaint as my HO has been useless and very rude telling me "well you won't get a move through us".

I know there are more extreme cases than mine but I was a victim of a crime a few years back as I suffer from anxiety and all this just makes me feel on edge all the time.

My neighbour also plays loud music in her garden and she she gets back from clubbing.

When I closed my curtains the other day as one of the neighbours cats ( who I have never even spoken too) was in my bush by my window and literally looking into my house one of my little one's started crying so it affecting my kids as well now.

I want to make a complaint to my HA as I just feel nothing is being done to help me.

OP posts:
Slightyamusedandsilly · 06/06/2026 13:52

Just be aware @housinglass that the situation won't necessarily be any better in a private rental. I had to leave an otherwise gorgeous apartment in a lovely location due to neighbours. They were noisy and loud until 1 or 2 in the morning, kids out of control, fighting in the street. My landlady was their landlady but because they paid on time she wouldn't do anything. In the end we moved.

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 06/06/2026 14:29

@housinglass could you do a diagram? Am struggling to see why on earth they’d do what you are describing, are they meeting up in your front garden? Or is your window directly onto public access?

Loadsapandas · 06/06/2026 14:46

housinglass · 05/06/2026 21:42

Update:
The HO called me today and said only the music is classed as anti social behaviour.

She said it's "very common" in social housing for people to hinder outside neighbours properties and look in their windows etc.
She said "I don't know why but this is very common in social housing".

She confirmed it was not ASB more of a nuisance.

She was quite apologetic and advised me to consider private housing, or a mutual exchange.

I guess it looks like will have to try and private rent.

You could end up paying more for less, more issues and limited security.

can you not use the potential removals money to build a fence out front?

Balloonhearts · 06/06/2026 14:55

Open windows, play loud music with very explicit lyrics. They will fuck off eventually, as they won't be able to hear themselves think.

oliviaAustin · 06/06/2026 14:58

Yeah they’re not going to do anything. My friend lives in a flat where the man above her plays the sound of screaming babies all night to annoy her and threatens her when she asks him to stop. The HA have just told her to move or deal with it because he has MH issues…

CaptainBeefheartspal · 06/06/2026 15:02

Try for a mutual exchange, that way you’re still a social housing tenant. There’ll be lots of people wanting to move into a new build.

LakieLady · 06/06/2026 15:05

When your pyracantha gets properly established your neighbours won't venture across the boundary, OP. If you can't wait that long, put up a fence.

That and privacy film on your windows will sort most of your issues.

Clearinguptheclutter · 06/06/2026 15:07

A hedge or similar will work wonders here

the only thing you can really complain about however is the noise

yes we now understand re the cat but you have to admit you worded it badly

Gettingbysomehow · 06/06/2026 15:09

Im sorry but you're upset that a cat was looking in your window? 😂😂😂what about birds or foxes, are they allowed to look or not?

fundamentallyauthentic · 06/06/2026 15:15

Try and swap before giving up your lifetime tenancy and moving to private.

The unpalatable truth (to some) is that chances are you’ll get better neighbours in the private sector than in social housing.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 06/06/2026 15:17

Gettingbysomehow · 06/06/2026 15:09

Im sorry but you're upset that a cat was looking in your window? 😂😂😂what about birds or foxes, are they allowed to look or not?

RTFT

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