I talk too much

[Purplehearts45]

My marriage ended he told me to stop I did stop but talked a lot as I was distressed I can’t forgive myself for keeping talking that’s all I did my daughter told me to stop talking I did but he had enough by that point he hates it when I talk a lot I had a lot to say he’s selling the house I talked a lot about that he didn’t like it he’s a ass whole he won’t let me have my daughter I hate him I don’t love him he’s unreasonable he rolls his eyes at me when I’m upset I said I didn’t want the divorce he just said about being quiet all I did was talk a lot and he wanted a divorce he kept telling me to stop I couldn’t stop as I was so emotional

I think you know

Knew it, this is so bloody tragic and I hugely feel for the dd who is just used as an emotional prop/support human for op

Oh dear. Here we go again.

Yes, I recognise this has been going on for ages and the OP has made many posts with the same thing

What does your social worker think of the situation with your daughter?

But if you’re all living together now? Oh do you mean you need her to chose you not her dad? Do you think that would mean he’d need to be the one to move out then?

Yep always the victim,
everyone else is wrong..

OP I realise this is a name change but based on your prior threads you do need help. All of your network family, friends, ex, people on MN have told you this. Child services/family team, apolgies i dont recall the name, have advised you can't be solely responsible for your DD.

I realise you are having a hugely difficult time, but perhaps you need to consider what impact your actions are having on others, and try the help that is being offered, what harm could it do?

Best case the help is warented and beneficial, worst case the help was not needed and nothing changes.

If you love and care for your dd as you say, please try and focus on actions that are being suggested by the support systems in your life. This situation is not helping you, and more importantly your dd.

You need to stop OP. You need to find somewhere to live and then maybe DD can visit, but you have repeatedly said you can't look after yourself and need supported accommodation so how do you think you could look after DD?

I’m not trauma dumping I just can’t believe he would divorce me for talking

I’m looking after myself

Op you've posted so many.times about how the man DOES NOT WANT TO BE WITH YOU. He doesn't want to listen to you or clean your poo off the floor any more. He is entitled to leave you if he wishes.

You need to ENGAGE with help and strike out on your own. Posting you've only ever spent 4 nights alone ever etc. you need help that Mumsnet can't provide.

That’s not true my ex is a asswhole so is my mum

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Again OP, this should not be your main concern, having your heart broken is awful. It happens to I would say almost everyone.

I dont think your talking is the only issue. It is never really one thing, and by your own posts your relationship was/is awful. You told your friends he was abusive?

You must focus on what is best for your dd. Clinging on to a failed relationship that was fundamentaly broken in many ways, and living in an environment that is toxic will be doing untold damage to her. Is that what you want for your dd? to be damaged and hurt because you will not seek help and move from a situation that is toxic? I am sure it isnt, but this situation has been going on for at least 6 years, perhaps not the divorce but the toxicity.

Your dd needs you focus on improving your situation, finding somewhere to live, and taking up any, and all help offered. so with work and time you can stop obsessing over a broken relationship and a man, who if you posts are accurate does not love you. His reasons for not loving you are irrelevant.

Do what is the right for your dd. Get help from professionals. Move to supported living, and start to rebuild you and your life.

Ive been around people men and women that just cant shut up, i cant stand it.

Op the man dont want you move on.

I know he doesn’t want me

What do you want from
this thread that hasn’t been said in your other threads?

I agree. There has been at least one similar post recently if not more.
If the OP speaks the same way as she writes, ie with no pauses, that could be wearing.

@Purplehearts45 I really don’t mean to be rude but it’s late, are you a bit pissed because you aren’t really making sense. And it’s fine if you are, we’ve all been there, but I don’t think you’re going to get what you want out of this thread if you’re posting and being quite incoherent about something that’s obviously very emotional.

Ah. I’ve just seen your thread from March where you were lowering your dose of antipsychotics. OP, please get some proper help and stop posting these. You need to find somewhere to live and focus on getting well and THEN think about what’s best for your daughter.

He is not divorcing you for talking.

He is divorcing you because you clearly have a lot of MH issues and are not doing anything about them.

If your DD is 11 then she is old enough to have a say where she wants to live. You can still see her but it will give you time to sort yourself out.

Have you been screened for ADHD?

Hey girl, I’ve seen a few of your posts. How old are you and what learning disability’s do you have?

I think you need to try and accept your partners decision as tough as it is and now think about what you want, if that’s time with your daughter then you need to work on yourself so she wants that also, she has to feel comfortable around you.

I’m not saying you are but if you’re like this or say these kinds of things around her that’s a lot for a child, especially of her age.

Get the help and support you need and try become the best version of you for her and yourself.

I know offloading on a forum can help but ultimately the work has to come from within.

I’m a yapper also but I recognise that and I know when I need to stop and understand not everyone wants to be yapped to 24/7.. it’s exhausting for everyone and yourself.

Take all the help you can get ☺️

Purplehearts45, this reads rather like a poem. I am sorry you are treated with such disdain. They tell you that you're talking too much because they don't want to take on board what you have to say. Seize your courage in both hands and free yourself from their rancid opinions and their presence in your life. You'll be able to talk, shout, sing as much as you like.