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Always covering colleagues work because they fall behind

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lilybit2025 · 29/05/2026 14:05

As the title suggests, I’m constantly being asked to cover for a colleague who is always falling behind or claiming they’re “too busy” to complete their own work. They only raise it with our manager at the last minute, and because I’m the only person familiar with that area, the responsibility always ends up falling on me.

Originally, we worked in separate areas of the department doing the same type of work but for different clients. Even back then, this colleague regularly needed other people to step in and help. I’ve since moved away from client-facing work altogether and now mainly work behind the scenes handling finance, while she has effectively taken over my old role yet I’m still being pulled back in to cover the work whenever she falls behind.

When I worked in that role myself, I managed my workload independently and only ever asked for help when it was absolutely necessary. This colleague has a long history of relying on others to pick up the slack, even when we were on different teams, I was still stepping in to help despite it not being part of my role.

I have briefly mentioned before that this has been an ongoing pattern, but if I’m repeatedly being asked to step in and help, my own work ends up taking a back seat, despite the fact I’ve moved into a completely different role. I understand teams need to support each other at times, but this now feels like a recurring expectation rather than occasional support.

Even our manager has admitted they don’t understand why this colleague consistently leaves everything until the last minute. It’s becoming exhausting and incredibly frustrating to deal with.

If I get asked to cover again, do I just be honest and say this is a repeating issue and this happened before she joined the new client account? I'm very close to my manager.

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Stoicandhappy · 29/05/2026 14:07

Next time they ask say sorry, no, I can’t help as I have my own workload to complete. If manager insists, then you give them some of your work (the thing you most dislike) to do. Or just let other things fail.

All the time you enable it, nothing will change.

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KindnessIsKey123 · 29/05/2026 14:40

I would frontload it and let your manager know that you have plenty of work yourself, so won’t be available to drop everything for any future emergencies. She can then let the colleague know that you will not be there to assist in future emergencies so she’ll need to plan it out for herself, or eg work on a Saturday and sort it out.

i spent a lot of time assisting a colleague who would similarly fall behind. One day I just stopped and let her sink or swim.

It’s not your job to make up for someone’s regular inability to manage their own workload.

TheChosenTwo · 29/05/2026 14:43

Even our manager has admitted they don’t understand why this colleague consistently leaves everything until the last minute.

why the fuck isn’t the manager identifying that this is a common issue and stepping in? Absolutely bloody useless 😤

just say no, you have your own deadlines to meet and are on track working towards them and to stop and do this other work will derail you.

FoxandDuck · 29/05/2026 14:56

Surely it is obvious why the person is doing this. They leave it until the last minute knowing they don’t have to do it as you will step in. Some upwards management of your manager might be required here! Years ago now, I had to point out to my manager that this was the fourth month in a row that my colleague had started feeling a bit funny on deadline day -2, spent deadline day -1 saying how unwell they were before going home at 4pm, at which point me or another colleague got summoned and had just enough time to establish how much of the processes which needed to be done to meet the deadline hadn’t been done, do them and meet the deadline. Meanwhile, colleague always appeared the day after the deadline feeling much better. The manager genuinely hadn’t made the connection. The following month he was a bit more on top of it. The month after that, at my suggestion, he introduced interim progress meetings and there was never an issue again. OK, the person resigned a few months later but it was no loss and the replacement was all over the tasks so it was never an issue again

Ricequark · 31/05/2026 05:45

I'm very close to my manager.

so it is blinding you to the very obvious fact that your manager is crap at her job

Flatinbed · 31/05/2026 06:16

As long as you just mention/complain about it, but still actually do it, it will continue.

It is being taken for granted that you will pick up and the slack. All the others, will have mentally added it to your duties.

Warning in advance that you will not do it again. Drop in every so often, what should have been done by now. Log it all. Then refuse (or ask for overtime/time in lieu/pay rise - anything that inconveniences someone!).

Make it someone else's problem.

Youtookyourtime · Yesterday 17:44

You’re very close to your manager?

Well she’s not got your back has she? Or perhaps you have benefited hugely in the past from her being the manager @lilybit2025

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