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Advice about when to get breast checked out.

29 replies

youplonkerrodney · 28/05/2026 20:07

I know the knee-jerk response is - If in doubt, GO!

But I am afraid that if the doctor can’t find a problem, I will be labelled ‘anxious’ in my notes and not taken seriously in future when there IS something wrong.

My mum has had breast cancer twice, I am now 40, I haven’t had children so am at higher risk and am reaching the age where it is becoming more of a possibility.

In the last 10 years I have been to the GP for:

  • Medication for anxiety (low dose during a stressful time - took it for six months then didn’t renew prescription).
  • I felt that I had memory problems. He told me to keep a diary and come back in 3 months if still a concern. I never went back (pretty sure it was stress again).
  • Went to have a sore lump in my armpit examined (last Septmeber) except had vanished by the time my appointment came round! Must’ve been a gland or something.

Now, since around February I have had a sense of discomfort in / around my right armpit. Not pain, more just an awareness that something isn’t quite right. It almost feels like a lump except when I feel it there is NO lump, and no actual site of pain either. Just that I am aware that the right armpit is a bit uncomfortable. So I don’t have anything specific to say to a doctor except ‘my armpit doesn't feel right’.

So I haven’t been because I am afraid the doctor will just think I’m being paranoid, especially given my pattern of visits in the last few years, and I will not be taken seriously.

I had stopped wearing a bra because of the discomfort (even though it was mild- I hate bras anyway) and that’s been a problem in this weather because I can’t wear a jumper! So have been wearing a bra and been so aware of this discomfort. I don’t know what to do.

To complicate matters I am in the middle of relocating and I am still registered at a GP about 100 miles away. But that’s a side issue I guess.

OP posts:
WondersofJobby · 28/05/2026 21:38

Can you afford to go private? It's a few hundred quid for a GP appointment and mammogram with Bupa

WondersofJobby · 28/05/2026 21:38

Can you afford to go private? It's a few hundred quid for a GP appointment and mammogram with Bupa

Thisistemporary · 28/05/2026 22:22

Definitely go. I had breast pain and went to the GP expecting to be sent on my way but she actually felt a lump I hadn’t detected. She referred me for a mammogram/ ultrasound and thankfully all was well.

With your family history and age they may also refer you to the family history clinic where you can get more comprehensive testing and monitoring.

suki1964 · 28/05/2026 22:28

youplonkerrodney · 28/05/2026 20:22

Thanks, yes I would happily be embarrassed to put my mind at ease.

If it does turn out to be ‘nothing’ though, that’ll be two GP visits for non-existent breast problems within a year. It makes me look like I have an anxiety issue. I am so worried about a ‘boy who cried wolf’ situation down the line.

Just go and get checked

I did, red flagged and waited 10 weeks for an appointment - worse 10 weeks of my life till then

Mum had a wee niggle, pit of pain in the ovaries, then started not to be able to eat, time she got seen , she was dead within the fortnight

Go get seen and dont be worrying about a :wasted appointment, plenty of those being used to get free scripts for OTC nedicines FOC

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