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AIBU to find FTM chat incredibly dull?!

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Elleee · 28/05/2026 17:54

I attended my first baby group with my DD who is now 8 months old. I also have DD aged 4.

I started talking to a few of the other mums there - I made lots of friends the first time round at baby groups and was keen to meet some other mums with babies the same age as DD.

I couldn’t believe how boring the entire room of conversation was! One mum was saying how she’d been carrying around calpol for the past few days and taking her DS’s temperature hourly to check that he wasn’t overheating and didn’t need calpol to bring his temperature down (not entirely sure that’s how calpol works anyway!). Another mum going into detail about how her DD’s bowel habits had changed during the heatwave. Another parent informing everyone that she’d read that wooden toys are so much better than plastic and that she had banned plastic toys from their house (just you wait until your DD gets to age 2 😂). Another saying how she’d been setting alarms to check on DS during the night to check he hadn’t overheated. Other topics of conversation included how BLW is so much superior to purées and how their babies were GREAT eaters (babies were all 6m-14m…).

I actually remember discussing these sort of things back when oldest DD was a baby and I’m mortified at how boring I must have sounded! Is this standard stuff once you’re past your first baby?!

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TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 30/05/2026 08:09

Puffinsandcoffee · 30/05/2026 07:44

Boring/ interesting is pretty subjective tho. Its not like "discussing the arts, literature, philosophy" or whatever else someone might put on a dating profile is inherently interesting - if the person doing the discussing is a crashing bore. On the other hand, I've been in pain from laughing at a story about a leaky nappy, in the context of a discussion about the merits of different nappy brands.

If nappies and Calpol are the subjects people are interested in, you'll be the bore if you insist on talking about the latest Sally Rooney novel that no one else has had time to read. And any subject can be interesting in the right hands.

Yes, I can't stand overly earnest discussions whatever the topic as a means of making friends.

I need to know I went can have a good laugh whatever the subject before we do any serious talk!

Thepeopleversuswork · 30/05/2026 08:32

It is incredibly boring but it helps people. I would take what you need from it but if it starts to be painfully boring stop going.

Tigerbalmshark · 30/05/2026 08:34

IlfordGap · 28/05/2026 18:30

Yes, that is how Calpol works. I'm surprised you don't know that, as a superior more-than-one mum!

It reduces your temperature if you are feverish. It doesn’t cool you down in a heatwave, which is what that parent was suggesting…

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