To want to change my 5mo DS name.

[wickedwitchofthenorth]

Really cannot get used to his name. DH and I picked it because it was the only one we could agree on, but now I'm really regretting it.

It just doesn't suit him and it feels wrong calling it him. I

It is also my FILs name, and my MIL was soo pleased and so now if I go and change it she will probably take it personally.

His name is John by the way.
I wish I'd called him Adam or William (Liam)

Is it a bit too late to change it? Should I just hope that it grows on me or should I go back to the registry office.

Thought I'd get more feedback on AIBU rather than baby names board.

what would you do?

I have a good friend, btw, whose ds (4) is John. It did feel a bit self-conscious when he was younger, but actually, now it sounds quite funky, bcs so anti-fashion.

My name was changed when i was about 1yrs old... my mum was a bit unconvinced anyway but one day she took me for a walk in my pram and some random woman came to have a gawp. She was a bit coughcommoncough and my mum is a closet snob...she asked what my name was and my mum, putting on her best phone voice said "Madeline". The woman exclaimed "MADDALAINE! MADDALAINE" (in Scottish accent) "THAT'S MA FAVRIT NAME!!!".
Apparently mum took me straight home and made the name-changing appointment straight away. They just put another name in front so technically I have two first names- LUCY MADELINE but everyone just calls me Lucy.

do you think it is the name thats the problem? for ages after our dd was born we called her 'the baby', because we had just had 9months of calling her 'the baby' before she was born and using her real name felt really odd! i had the same feelings as you that maybe we had chosen the wrong name, but eventually we got used to it and now love her name.

I had a bf once and it took me a while to actually work out what he was called/named

His mum called him Anthony
His mates called him Tony
His ex called him Reg
His dc's friends called him Tone
His work mates called him Michael
His sister called him Mike

I liked Mike aswell so thats what I called him

His name wasn't Anthony

Call John whatever you like, there are a lot of people in this country that are known by a name that is not on their birth certificate.

I would just pick another name or pet name and then when he goes to school tell the school he is John - known as ***

I can see what you mean about finding it hard to call him John. I think that is more likely because he is a tiny baby still abd John is a more grown up name though, rather than because you hate the name and made a mistake with it.
It sounds to me like you do actually like the name but just feel a bit uncomfortable using it at the moment.
I'd second calling hin Jonny for a bit and then can change back to John if you/he likes when he is older.

My youngest is called Edward and although I love love love the name I cant actually call him it because it seems too old fo him at 4 months as well. I call him Teddy or Ted which suits him to a T!

I really like the name John. i'm actually considering it for the next dc.

What about calling him Jack or Johnny for short?

yanbu - now would be the easiest time to change it, before he even knows what it is! If you end up using other names anyway then you might as well change it formally

My 20 month old has a name that my husband picked. It's fine and a perfectly nice name but she is nearly two now and I am not used to it. I feel a bit weird when I have to tell people what she is called and I have to stop myself from telling random strangers that I didn't pick it. I too wanted to change it but I didn't and it is too late now!

I think John is a good solid name, but you could also consider Jake as an alternative.

I felt a bit like that with DS2. I love DS1's name and the 2nd time around, we just didn't like any names. After 6 days of calling him baby, we settled on a name but for ages it just didn't seem right to me.

DS2 is 4 now and although he has grown into it, I can think of loads more name now that I'd rather he had.

We are a family of Johns. My dh is Daddy-John, I'm Mummy-John, my boys are both firstname-John. If we are out and someone shouts the name 'John!' we all answer.

None of us are actually called John.

no i want to to do this with my dd , i am just putting her middle name to joint first name and giving her my best friens name as middle name.
you can download it on te site and fill itin and both of you just sighn it.

Remember John is a toilet in America. You'll change it now won't you?

Seriously, if you aren't happy with it, change it. I agree that it isn't the nicest name for a baby. Also, imo it's a boring name. You could call him Jack/Jonny/whatever but at the end of the day he'll still be that John won't he?

It might be a family name, but he's your baby, not your in-laws, and by the sounds of it your DH isn't too taken with it either, so I'd definitely change it. Choose something that's completely different to John (I like Adam btw. It's got to be right for you and your DH and your Son of course. Don't worry about anyone else.

He'll thank you for it. Who wants to be a boring John for the rest of their life?

We respectfully named dd after dh's grandmother but name didn't suit her at all. So we call her something else.
He full name is only used officially ie hardly ever.
You can call your child whatever you like.
My bf has had several different names since I first met her and none of them have been what her parents named her, who still use that name. All v confusing....
It needed be anything to stress over.
I think FIL and MIL would only be upset if you did it officially.

if he has a middle name, you could use his initials? JD or whatever?

I know two little boys called John and it's quite sweet really - and very unusual these days!