My husband has told me I am a hypocrite just asking for opinions.
He has started smoking weed again, bareing in my we aren't financially in a good place and trying to sell our house.
We have a 1 yo and 4 yo who i look after full-time. After our recent argument about him smoking weed again which I found out about a few weeks ago after him lying to me, hes told me I need to get a job now as hes not supporting me anymore because he wants to leave me. This all started after last night. He normally goes out every single night with his friends after the kids go to bed so im on my own. Last night he said he'll take me for a date. Little did I know this date consisted of walking around a pond/ lake with all roudy kids around half naked and taking drugs or getting drunk whilst he got high and we walked around it. I was really upset when I found out as soon as I got in the car and smelt it. I thought there was a chance at connection and to talk about the issues we had that have been festering for me. I thought it would've brought us closer.
I couldn't hide my discomfort at being in that situation I just wanted to go home which I expressed. I didnt want to walk around whilst he smoked that after a hard day of dealing with small children. He started getting angry and walking ahead and I walked the other way. In the end I lost him and rang him to come and pick me up in the car, which we had driven there. He said no I need to walk all the way to him and the car. Which I couldn't do as my feet were killing me. In the end he wouldn't get me said my behaviour is unacceptable and im a miserable person. I had to get a taxi home. Just a horrible evening.
When I got home he said ' you'll not get a penny out of me anymore' you need to get a job and the kids go to nursery full time im not giving you anything because of your behaviour ' when he knows im financially dependant on him which he always wanted me to be because he never agreed with nursery.
This has left me feeling horrible and to top it off hes now saying I cant have an issue with him smoking weed when I have the occasional small glass of wine on special occasions.
To top it off i found out hes lost our 1 year olds pram when he was out with his friends. It had his favourite back pack in the bottom. Its the 3rd thing hes lost this week. He forgot to put it in the car. The friend he was with was sectioned a few years ago and I never would've agreed him to take our 1 yo if I knew it was with him.