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Landlord Issues have I actually done anything wrong?

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user1472128444 · 26/05/2026 16:51

Long story short.. I had a maintenence issue with my rented property. My landlord lives next door (his sister also). I heard my landlord and his sister talking about me outside my house, the sister blamed my child for the issue and also made a comment ref my parenting skills.
I actually get on well with the sister. I was a bit upset.
The next day I went to my landlord and asked to talk to him. I explained that I heard the conversation between the two of them. I told him that it upset me, and that I wanted to reiterate again how the issue was no fault of mine or my families (it was an ongoing issue so I needed him to know that blaming me wouldnt solve it). He apologised for talking outside my house and was glad that I'd approached him to clear the air.
All good.. except now the sister is absolutely livid at me. Saying that I should have come to her if I had problem with her and not spoken to my landlord. She has sent me really hostile messages and keeps trying to argue with me. I have apologised for upsetting her just to try and keep the peace.
I have explained that I don't actually have a problem with her, I was just talking to my landlord to speak up about what I'd heard and let him know that we were not responsible for the maintenance issue.
But she's furious with me.
It's very awkward as obviously she lives next door and now I feel like I want to move as it's just uncomfortable.
So.. am I being unreasonable? Did I handle the situation incorrectly? What would you have done?
I personally feel like the whole thing has massively been blown out of proportion 🤷‍♀️
Thank you!

OP posts:
curious79 · 26/05/2026 16:56

YANBU, and you nipped the issue in the bud. She's feeling embarrassed as he probably told her off for shooting her mouth off, and it sounds like you're feeling bullied - rightfully. Block her number and have nothing more to do with her. It can be hard finding places to rent depending where you are so see if there's not a way of managing this that doesn't involve moving.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 26/05/2026 17:02

Sorry Sarah, I thought it best to speak to my landlord. I wouldn’t dream of telling you what you should talk about, I just wanted to make sure my landlord has the right information about the [….] issue, so it can be resolved.

Ablondiebutagoody · 26/05/2026 17:03

You handled it perfectly by being open about what happened. She sounds nuts.

MauriceTheMussel · 26/05/2026 17:15

Use this as an opportunity to step way back from
her, and them. Don’t mix business with pleasure.

TeaPot496 · 26/05/2026 17:18

Just ignore her.

Tableforjoan · 26/05/2026 17:20

I’d stop the friendship and honestly I’d move. I wouldn’t want to be living next door to my landlord.

They will know and hear everything you do. See if you’ve cut the lawn or not. Nope nope far too close for comfort.

AmberTigerEyes · 26/05/2026 17:20

I guess I would not have gone to the landlord myself. I would have filed it away and waited for the landlord to come to me if his sister had fostered any doubts in his mind. It’s usually not a good idea to admit to eavesdropping.

Larrythecatforpm · 26/05/2026 17:21

I remember your other post. Op - you need to move.

user1472128444 · 26/05/2026 17:34

AmberTigerEyes · 26/05/2026 17:20

I guess I would not have gone to the landlord myself. I would have filed it away and waited for the landlord to come to me if his sister had fostered any doubts in his mind. It’s usually not a good idea to admit to eavesdropping.

I think the problem is I have filed many things away over the years and this was the straw that broke the camels back. Also, they were stood right next to my open window talking, I wasn't even trying to hear them 🤦‍♀️ which made it feel worse in my opinion, because who does that 🤷‍♀️

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MesonBoson · 26/05/2026 17:34

You dealt with it brilliantly.

Also, well done Kier (Wtf?) Rent Reform Act means that you don't have to worry about retaliation eviction

Lastofthesummerwines · 26/05/2026 17:56

I have just moved from a property where my landlord owned the whole building where he had flats and run his business in the same building and honestly I would never recommend it. It's literally like living in your parents spare room coz you don't have any privacy at all. Everything can impact your rental status. I felt like I lived in a fish tank with your landlords eyes watching every move.

user1472128444 · 26/05/2026 18:26

Lastofthesummerwines · 26/05/2026 17:56

I have just moved from a property where my landlord owned the whole building where he had flats and run his business in the same building and honestly I would never recommend it. It's literally like living in your parents spare room coz you don't have any privacy at all. Everything can impact your rental status. I felt like I lived in a fish tank with your landlords eyes watching every move.

I have been here for a while and I can't say this is my first issue. This has just spurred me on to get things moving and look for somewhere else.

OP posts:
Duvetdayneeded · 26/05/2026 18:44

Stop apologising to her!!!!! They are the idiots.

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