I was on a class trip with around 20 students and our professor, and we were all staying together in an Airbnb. Since there were only a few keys, everyone was constantly opening the gate/door for each other throughout the trip.
I was sharing a room with a classmate I’ve had issues with before, although I’ve always tried to stay polite and avoid escalating things. One evening I asked her if she could open the gate because I had already done it several times that day. She refused and said “it’s your friend so you should do it,” referring to another classmate I had been spending a lot of time with during the trip.
The comment felt strange because this friend had been hanging out with the whole group all week, including having dinner with all of us earlier that same evening. Both me and him were confused by her reaction.
After that she became extremely angry. While I was out of the room, she took back small things she had gifted me earlier that day, and when I later tried to talk to her calmly, she refused. What upset me most was that she contacted our professor privately and, from what I understood later, presented the situation in a very one-sided way. So I messaged my prof and explained my side. My professor ended up calling the friend involved to ask what happened after she read my message, and afterward he told me that the situation sounded very different once he explained the full context.
This became especially frustrating for me because I had never previously complained about this classmate despite earlier incidents, including her once mocking the way I walk when I physically couldn’t run for a bus due to arthritis, and another time yelling at me. I had always tried to keep these conflicts private and avoid escalating them because I'm 25 years old and she is 38.
But after the trip I messaged my professor explaining that I no longer feel comfortable sharing a studio space with her and asked if we could discuss it properly in June. I still feel conflicted about whether I should have just waited until then instead of sending the message earlier and bringing up the previous conflicts too.
AIBU?