Ill try to keep this short. Me and my ex split 2years ago and have 3 kids. He moved into his mums empty 4 bed property (that he paid no bills or rent/mortgage for) whilst I stayed in the flat with the kids. He has never had them overnight, doesnt take them out and until a few weeks ago didnt even have car seat for them. He just pops into the flat when he feels like it with no schedule or pre arrangements and claims we are great at co parenting but that's mainly because I ignore all his shitty behaviours. He does pay his half of the mortgage and was kind enough to not force me to sell the flat until I started my new job and was more financially stable which I do appreciate. To add he has also neverpaid child maintenance and doesn't financially contribute towards the kids at all.
Due to his behaviour over the years I decided to go no face to face contact with him as he would deny being told about stuff to do either the kids and would accuse me of lying, and numerous times would mention I was ruining his life with his new girlfriend as I hadn't sold the flat. So I decided text messages meant everything was documented and he couldn't claim he wasn't told etc and it has made my life so much better and I am so much happier. The flat is on the market and we have finally had an offer made on Friday (its been on for awhile) and I've communicated this through text messages and asked him if he is happy to accept or does he want to counter offer. I need an answer by Tuesday (tomorrow) and he has completely ignored these messages and just keeps saying we need to talk in person and refses to answer. Hasnt even filled out his details or completed any of his bita for our solicitors. He knows full well that I do not want to see him in person but It adamant it needs to happen.
Would you suck it up and meet him in person or stick to communications via text messages? He thinks I'm being unreasonable. He was desperate to sell the flat and is now making it incredibly difficult. I know full well he is doing this to take control of the situation and will try to force his way back into my life if I meet him in person. He is a narcissist and has made my life miserable for years. On numerous occassions over the years tried to get back with me despite him having a girlfriend. And consistently would push any boundaries I set to try and get control again. Am I being unreasonable? Should I just suck it up and do it to get the flat sold? My family thinks I should just meet with him and get it over with. But I know if I agree he will just continue to use this as a way to get to me in the future. Any advice?
Just to add I did suggest for him to buy me out of the property as I know he's got savings and can afford to but he refused. Unfortunately I can't afford to buy him out.