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AIBU to think my daughter's manager is treating her unfairly?

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ThisLimeCrow · 25/05/2026 10:31

Unsure where to post this but here we go..
Dd struggling at a temporary summer job off from uni & cries before and after every shift due to the manager being rude. Was hardly trained at the start but constantly nitpicking every move & tells her that 'he knows' that she is rude/nervous/overwhelmed etc when she never said she was.. raised his voice at her infront of colleagues & accused her of being rude for a misjudgement & she felt mortified (she was ending her shift & said to me afterwards that she felt disoriented after being on tills non-stop) Dd is autistic & she is fully capable of the job, it's great for her confidence skills, but I can see this is making her upset. She enjoys the job for what it is apart from that & I feel conflicted as to how to guide her through it, we've all had our fair pick of bad workplaces but she's very conscientious which makes her more sensitive to these sorts of things.

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 25/05/2026 10:34

If she’s crying before every shift because the manager is picking at her then this is not good for her confidence. If there’s a HR department I’d encourage her to report it, if not I’d help her find a different job

Zanatdy · 25/05/2026 10:34

i’d tell my 18yr old DD to walk, no-one should feel like that at work.

user293948849167 · 25/05/2026 11:30

If it’s not the actual work or colleagues apart from the manager I would tell her to leave. Nobody needs to be crying before and after every shift for a temporary summer job.
There’s still time to find another job for the rest of the summer.

Strawberries86 · 25/05/2026 11:42

A bad work environment will crush her confidence. I’d help her find something else.

Fizzybluewater · 25/05/2026 12:12

She needs to leave, not worth the long term effects of lost confidence. Manager sounds a complete moron [and lousy at their job].

Livelovebehappy · 25/05/2026 12:16

Leave then send a lengthy complsint email to the.top boss. At least if it happens to the next person senior management are aware theres a pattern. Sounds like a grade 1 Arsehole.

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