Help me leave my husband

[AstarionsDarkUrge]

Hi

I need some help with leaving my husband.
I have 2 children with him which makes things really difficult.
He owns our house, I'm not on the mortgage or deeds.
Im in a lot of debt and currently on a debt management plan so probably can't even rent anywhere.
I just don't know what to do. I don't think I could afford to furnish somewhere even. I've even considered just leaving by myself into a house share but I really can't leave my kids it would kill me.
Has anyone been in this situation before?

Why is it you are leaving? My exhusband was mostly an arse but as I was singlehandedly raising our children he did at least leave as it was just easier until I got other things in place.

Do you feel safe living with your husband?

If so perhaps you could consider staying while the divorce is processed. You will be entitled to a share of the house (regardless of him owning it), and you could use some of that to pay off your debt and enable you to rent elsewhere.

I feel safe physcially but he is not great emotionally and it is making me unwell. I did something really awful to him at the beginning of the year due to my bipolar and I understand I deserve the punishment but I can't take it anymore. He wants us to stay together, I have offered to leave several time but he won't accept that. I can do it aymore, my hair is falling out, I can't eat, I'm an anxious mess.

Have you spoken to women’s aid? I’m not sure if they only support victims of domestic violence but they might be able to point you in the right direction?

So sorry to hear that - sounds like an awful situation for you.

Do you mind my asking what you did? I’m just asking as it sounds like he’s “punishing” you and that might not be fair.

I have bipolar too by the way and Lamotrigine has been transformative for me, are you having any treatment?

What did you do that he’s still punishing you for 5 months later?

Something about your post worried me @AstarionsDarkUrge could you let us know you’re okay?

No-one with a mental health problem deserves punishment.

Sorry for not replying it's been a difficult night.

I had a manic episode induced by alcohol. which is a problem i've never experienced before, I've never had a problem drinking alcohol before. I was hurting myself and when he tried to intervene I threatened to hurt him.
I've tried alcohol twice since then and both times I have been verbally very aggressive toward him so I have stopped completely now and only drink 0% stuff.
But he is obviously still very hurt by it and says he is afraid of me. I have offered to leave but he doesn't want me to but also can't be around me and it's making me more unwell living in this house because I feel so on edge and anxious all of the time.

I’m sorry you feel this way OP, are you being treated for your condition?

No not currently.