So I created a thread about something that happened a week ago at a school event. In the end I asked mumsnet to delete it as I gave away too much identifying info. I did get some good advice from MN with majority telling me “no one cares and trust me literally an hour later everyone will not be thinking of it as they have their own lives”. I felt better and was gradually forgetting it.
But just now at swimming class a mum from school came up to me and said “oh how did u enjoy the…..(event at school)…” she had a smirk on her face and usually I would think I’m overthinking (I have ADHD/RSD) and I would smile politely and say “yes thank you, what about you?”. But today I did something different: I told her “look just ask what you really want to know!” This is so unlike me if you knew me i’m quiet and shy and don’t talk too much, at this she began telling me she heard from XYZ what happened and wanted to know if I was ok etc. all fake obviously as she wants gossip. So I told her the story and now I’m really angry that she is still thinking of it and others are talking and gossiping.
After a week of reflection it was a complete non issue but then why are people bringing it up? MN told me I’m not important and no one will be thinking of it. I don’t want to rehash it all now but basically at a school event a mother was rude to me and I just simply responded to her rudeness. In the end we were okay and she did apologise and told me I wasn’t directed specially at me but she was directing it at me. Literally a 2 minute conversation but as I don’t get into confrontations it was upsetting for me so I asked MN for advice to which they said the woman was rude to me and totally unnecessary and people won’t be talking about it at all.
im feeling upset again I hate the gossipy b*ch who just brought it all up again for me