Would you say something?

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I've got someone that I know who I feel is underinong my parenting.

My child was having a tantrum and I was watching him whilst I was making a drink. She comes along, puts him on her knee and starts to comfort him. She didn't ask me and just took him anyway out of eye sight. She was also getting very close to him and mock kissing him

The other time she told him to put away a toy. It wasnt her house and I was just next to him, less than 30cm away.

Should I say something?

I feel we had almost this exact same thread the other week, complete with mock kissing 😳

So?

Do you not have any hobbies?

So you were ignoring your child and someone else came and distracted him.
I’d say thank you!

Let it go. She was probably thinking she was doing you a favour by letting you get your drink and a breather by distracting your kid. Why make it personal?

Biggest non-problem of the week award 🏆

Weird. All of it.

Your mother, sister or SIL I guess and a background of a shitty relationship

We know what yours is!! Festering over nothing

Yes, I’d say some thing. It’s not for someone (mil? Your mother) to interfere like this, and it’s a passive aggressive way of criticising you.

Start getting your mama tiger head on, and installing boundaries in your house.

Op said she was watching him, so was aware of the situation.

Yeah, get your mama tiger head on and then wonder why noone ever wants to babysit.

Or speak to your mother in law in the way you would speak to anyone else - ideally at the time rather than through passive aggressive text messages.

I don't think those things are objectively a problem.

However you sound like you need to assess whether you like this person and want to spend time with them.

You appear quite prickly OP.

Undermining your parenting is a big leap from the two instances you describe and which seem
very normal types of interactions between your child and the person who presumably is a fairly close friend or family.

OP, this has been festering for months now. This is the second thread you've started on this very subject. Either let it go or say something to the friend who distracted your son. If this is the second episode with the same person and you don't like it then for goodness sake say something. Maybe give the person context for ignoring your child in these circumstances.

Multiple threads started from this OP about perceived slights and things that piss them off. Someone is struggling in the heat

Mock kissing?

No, I wouldn’t say anything because I don’t care to be thought of as a loon.

They aren't close..... That's what I don't understand

She wouldn't baby sit?

What do you actually think it was wrong with what she did and why?

Parenting when not been asked to
.I was right there

I'm not close to this person

Really? If I was choosing to leave my child to it as I know them best I'd be pretty pissed off if someone else stepped in, none of their business and really weird that they think they know better than the parent

Loads, and none of them include starting copycat threads on internet forums 🤷‍♂️

She didn't ask me to intervene. I was right there

Just making notes and arguing with people? Sad

Just politely tell them then for eg that your way of dealing with tantrums is to ignore your child and ask them not to intervene.

PPs suggest that you’ve had other threads about similar. It’s your child and up to you to kindly inform other people of what you would like regarding their interaction with your child.

You may rub people the wrong way in doing so but that’s up to you.