AIBU to not go to the party?

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I’ve been invited to my friends party, which is lovely. Friend works at the same company as me, but we are different departments so never cross paths. However, she’s been there for years, pre Covid and is close friends with and has invited a big group of colleagues that I do work with. They worked together in the office for years pre Covid- through their 20s pre kids and built up close knit friendships. Think holidays, WhatsApp groups, regular social meetings ups etc. I started post Covid so never really got to know people well as we all mostly work from home, though I’ve been there 6 years now.

AIBU not to go as will feel like a bit of a spare part? I’m a bit socially awkward and shy anyway so the thought of just sitting in the shadows while they all
chat about past and future fun times isn’t appealing. it was lovely of friend to invite me and I don’t want to be rude. But…. Tell me I’m not BU to hide away and not go?!

If you don't want to go then don't go.

You don't need validation from Mumsnetters 🤷‍♂️

Personally I would but I'm not you.

If you don't want to go because you have enough of a social life, feel like you dont want/need to get to know them better then don't go.

If you dont go and dont give yourself the opportunity to get know anyone better, then the dynamic won't shift.
And you might feel even more left out when they are talking about said party that you didnt go to...

How did Serena Williams get good at playing tennis or Mary Berry learn how to make fabulous cakes?
Practice, practice, practice.
You will always be socially awkward if you don’t get out there and try.
Sorry if that sounds harsh op, just remember most people are thinking about themselves and will love you if you show genuine interest in them.

Think of it as an opportunity to make new friend and get to know the people you do know better.

This is exactly what I was going to say x

You should go if you said you were going and your friend is expecting you. You might enjoy it. (I'm still feeling sorry for the poster who was talked into putting on a big Eurovision party and only 5 people turned up).

I think it's worth pushing yourself to go. It will be nice for your friend for you to be there and it will probably be good for you and your colleagues to build relationships. 6 years is a long time to still not be friendly with colleagues, being in a more relaxed setting could really help you getting to know each other.