Grooms suit

[marathebest]

I think 1000 pounds is an awful lot to pay for a suit for the groom. It is custom made and no doubt will be lovely but I think it's exorbidant although maybe I'm behind the times. I have done a rough calculation to pounds as I am not in UK. Wedding is not lavish.
IABU - that's a normal sum for a grooms suit
IANBU - that's excessive

Unless you’re the one paying, it’s nothing to do with you

I think spending £1000 on a suit that can be reworn makes much more sense than spending that or more on a dress that will only be worn once for a few hours.

I think Dh hired his for about £150.

I am paying. Not for the whole wedding, just for the suit. I offered so it's fine I was just a bit gobsmacked when he told me the price!! Was expecting half that.

I agree, but it's not navy or grey or black, it's quite distinctive. I'm not sure how often he could wear it. Maybe as separates?

You should have set a budget of what you were willing to pay, he has obviously gone for something he has liked and you didn't really give any input, least he can wear it again. I bought Dds wedding dresses that is a one time wear !

Offering was a lovely gesture, but it sounds like you were expecting a few hundred pounds maybe. £1000 is a lot for a suit, but a wedding is such a special occasion I can see why he might want to splash out, especially if it can be worn again. The right thing to do would have been to communicate with you about the price and check if that was OK or if you just wanted to contribute a chunk towards it. At this point you could say you only have x to spend so it'll have to be a contribution towards this suit, hope thats ok. He shouldn't forego his choice (or feel pushed to) because of your nice gesture though.

I think it sounds reasonable for a wedding outfit. I imagine the bride (if there is one) will spend a similar amount.

Just give him the amount of money you are willing to spend on it and he can make up the rest. I doubt he assumed there would be no limit to the amount you were going to contribute.

If it is a specific colour and maybe made to measure then £1000 sounds reasonable.

I think you should just say something complimentary about the suit, then come clean and say you didn't expect it to be that much, apologise for getting any hopes up, and say what amount you can contribute. If he's a decent person he'll just say thanks that's very generous of you and put it towards his chosen suit.

I think I'll just pay for it as my wedding contribution as they are paying for the rest themselves after much saving. It is custom-made. It's a forest green colour so as I said probably worn as separates in the future. I'm not sure what the brides dress situation is but I think her family will be paying for that and they are not cheap are they. Everything is so expensive!!!! Thanks for all replies.

How much is the dress? Mine was custom made and was more than this, but my husband and other men in bridal were just asked to wear their own dark suits. if he wants a special custom made suit why should he not have one and I bet the wedding dress is more.