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Neighbours washing - diagram included!

117 replies

Timetogetgone · 22/05/2026 20:34

I live in a ground floor maisonette and my garden backs on to my kitchen and I have windows from my bedroom (and bathroom) facing the garden. The weather has obviously been lush all day and I myself have done every single last piece of washing (feeling smug).

Just peered out my window to look at my flowers and seen my upstairs neighbours have hung their washing over our joining fence.

Not the crime of the century but it’s only just been hung up now at 8pm. It’s all overlapping and pieces of clothing are on the dirty, bird pooed fence.

I would love to show you a photo but it would be super putting outting.

To the ones who’ll go for the throat. It’s ok. This post is in jest but equally I can see my neighbours pants hanging off our joining fence - ew. Haha.

Neighbours washing -  diagram included!
OP posts:
Sartre · 23/05/2026 08:20

OriginalSkang · 22/05/2026 21:25

Putting it out at night is probably a good idea really. Especially if you're one of those people who doesn't want the neighbours to see your knickers. And then you can put it away in the morning and enjoy your washing free garden!

I do it sometimes because we’re a family of 7 so have lots to get through and it just makes sense to do this! Really don’t see an issue with it.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 23/05/2026 08:50

Totally aside from the nuttiness of hanging laundry on the fence, the bird poo!!! Who wants poo on their clean laundry? I bet it's heavily weaponised incompetence. I hope the wife yells at him and makes him redo the washing himself.

OhGoshNotAgain · 23/05/2026 08:54

ToadRage · 22/05/2026 21:16

Are they British? I have a neighbour who puts her washing out at night. They have a line but at night seems odd. It confuses me and when I mentioned it to my husband he said maybe that's normal where they are from. They are Eritrean. Any Eritreans here who would like to confirm this for me?

Are they relatively new? I didn't have a washing line straightway when we moved in. i would pull my old clothes racks outside but I never hung it on the fence.

Edited

I’m British as far back as I know and I put the washing out at night as I don’t have time in the morning before I leave for work, and I can’t afford to miss a good drying day.

PutYourSpecsOnJean · 23/05/2026 09:05

SweetnsourNZ · 23/05/2026 06:28

What does it translate too. Never heard it before.

Ha'p'orth = a halfpennyworth which is how people used to buy food etc that was weighed out (you could buy by weight but it was common to ask for the amount you wanted to spend).
I've no idea why people use it to apply to people (maybe it's a small amount so slightly derogatory?) but daft ha'p'orth, mucky ha'p'orth etc were common criticisms when I was growing up (north west). Used in regions where people tend to drop h's hence people hear it as apeth

BridgetJonesV2 · 23/05/2026 09:08

I hung my washing out last night and it's nearly dry this morning so I don't have to look at it when we're sat in the garden. MN is very weird about washing getting darked on.

Clonakilla · 23/05/2026 09:19

Clubbiscuit · 23/05/2026 07:57

My (Pakistani) neighbours did this. It’s a high fence and I have a nice garden so I was very annoyed. I flicked them all off back into their garden. I assume it’s cultural. They never did it again.

You flicked someone’s washing on the ground rather than have a simple conversation?

Surely not.

Tableforjoan · 23/05/2026 09:19

I don’t mind washing being out overnight it’s the over the fence that’s gross.

I’ve often got washing out on the lines overnight. Like a pp said the change in temp or the huge spider dongs slap the creases out.

Also where do people live that spiders don’t come out in the day time as well 😅

OhGoshNotAgain · 23/05/2026 09:20

Clonakilla · 23/05/2026 09:19

You flicked someone’s washing on the ground rather than have a simple conversation?

Surely not.

I agree - it sounds spectacularly mean and unnecessarily provoking.

Hassell · 23/05/2026 09:22

OhGoshNotAgain · 23/05/2026 09:20

I agree - it sounds spectacularly mean and unnecessarily provoking.

The poster felt the need to tell us the neighbours were Pakistani

Clearly an utter twat in every facet of life

Genevieva · 23/05/2026 09:32

Timetogetgone · 22/05/2026 20:40

I thought they did but yep, on the fence. And we have nesting starlings in the garden so they’ve pooed every where, including that lovely fence!

They will learn their lesson. Presumably you can only see the pegs and the top of the clothing, with the rest hanging on their side. Very odd behaviour.

hereismydog · 23/05/2026 09:37

I hung my washing on the line last night, spider willies don’t scare me Grin HOWEVER, I went outside to collect it this morning and a snail has crawled up from my patio table and gone to town all over my scrubs AngryAngry I’m extra cross because I finished all the coloured washing and now I have a random red scrub top with snail goo all over it that I refuse to wash on its own!

StarCourt · 23/05/2026 10:03

SweetnsourNZ · 23/05/2026 06:28

What does it translate too. Never heard it before.

My mum would say it if I’d said or done something silly. It’s an affectionate term though. ‘you daft apeth’ no idea why it’s used in my family as we are not from Yorkshire where I think it originated from.

Splooterer · 23/05/2026 10:03

YABU for saying the weather is "lush".

Yetone · 23/05/2026 10:13

hereismydog · 23/05/2026 09:37

I hung my washing on the line last night, spider willies don’t scare me Grin HOWEVER, I went outside to collect it this morning and a snail has crawled up from my patio table and gone to town all over my scrubs AngryAngry I’m extra cross because I finished all the coloured washing and now I have a random red scrub top with snail goo all over it that I refuse to wash on its own!

Rinse under the tap and hang out again.

Bubblebathbefore8 · 23/05/2026 10:22

NotTheOrdinary · 22/05/2026 22:04

The spider willy stuff is not funny. It never was.

You tell that to the Spiders

KateCrusader · 23/05/2026 10:26

Ohcrap082024 · 22/05/2026 21:04

Oh my goodness, their washing is about to get darked on. “Filthy apeths”as my Nan would have said.

Ooh that’s taken me back. Hadn’t heard that term in years! 😁

Growingaseed · 23/05/2026 10:26

My next door neighbour also uses our joint fence to hang her washing. The thing is she's lived their 20 years and I can't understand why she's never got a washing line. She could have one of those retractable ones if she doesn't want it there permanently.

'T bother me but I have to be careful when I water the plants not to soak her washing.

nomas · 23/05/2026 10:26

A lot of words for a minor issue. think ‘neighbour is hanging washing out on joint fence’ would have sufficed.

I wouldn’t care if they did this.

boundtobe · 23/05/2026 10:31

Ohcrap082024 · 22/05/2026 21:04

Oh my goodness, their washing is about to get darked on. “Filthy apeths”as my Nan would have said.

Not heard that for a very long time. It is from halfpennyworth (h'porth). 😂

BMW58 · 23/05/2026 10:34

Yetone · 23/05/2026 07:45

I saw a lot of washing out on fences and other things in rural India a while ago.

My Indian NDN used to drape her washing over our wooden fence. Looked terrible and not good for the fence.

I asked her to stop doing it (my fence) and pointed out her washing line and showed her my pegs.

She nodded but a day or so later there was more washing on the fence.

So I pushed it off into her garden.

And again another day.

Then she bought some pegs and started using her line.

Clubbiscuit · 23/05/2026 11:25

Clonakilla · 23/05/2026 09:19

You flicked someone’s washing on the ground rather than have a simple conversation?

Surely not.

My neighbours have done multiple things which move our relationship beyond the ‘simple conversation’ level. One incident included using unprofessional builders who tipped an entire chimney nearly onto my child’s head in our garden.

MaySheWillStay · 23/05/2026 12:42

Sort of related, possibly just West Riding:

Anyone else remember asking for “an apeth of kali”?

Goldengirl123 · 23/05/2026 12:46

I think I would splash the clothes hanging on your side with dirty water 🤣🤣🤣

Ohcrap082024 · 23/05/2026 15:34

Yay! Lots of fellow “apeth/aporth” memories. I am also a born and bred Sarf Lundener. My Nan and Mum would use apeth regularly. You could be a filthy apeth, daft apeth, cheeky apeth, all very affectionate and said in jest.

So, for example, in the summer when we had been playing outside all day with friends, we would come home and mum would laughingly call us “filthy apeths”.

Any updates on the washing @Timetogetgone?

marmiteandcheeseoncrumpetspls · 23/05/2026 15:41

Petrolitis · 22/05/2026 20:37

They've put their clean washing on the actual fence!?

Do they not have a line?

Ha! Was only telling my DD about that thread last night as I was getting the washing in at 9.30pm.

She looked at me like this 🙄🤔

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