AIBU to feel anxious and low when the weather is lovely?

[QuickPearlFox]

Hot weather - summertime sadness!
am I the only one who really emotionally struggles when the weather is nice?! It makes me anxious and depressed and I feel like I should be ‘enjoying’ it and have this real FOMO… from what I don’t know. There feels this unspoken pressure to be doing something fun or exciting such as going to a beer garden, trip to the seaside picnic etc etc.
there is also the expectation and pressure to be happy and cheerful and when you don’t have any exciting plans it feels like everyone around you has and you wonder if you may be an alien.
I live alone with DD 9 years and have a few friends. We both love being at home and are both so tired by the time the weekend comes we love having some quiet chill time. But when the weather is good and sunny it makes me doubt my choices and feel like we are missing out on something. Anyone the same?

Kind of but now I hang out in my garden and don’t feel so bad

I know what you mean but you can have fun at home. My daughters 12 we take books and magazines to read in the garden, we have a mini paddling pool to dip our feet. Pot a few pots of seeds. Picnic/ cold drinks/ ice creams.

That sounds so nice
unfortunately we don’t have a garden but it sounds lovely

YABU

it’ll be back to pissing rain and then darkness soon enough

in a about a month it will be the summer solstice and from there the days start getting shorter and darker . The days may still be hot but people get bored of it and you don’t feel so much pressure. Even the summer holidays, we used to go on holidays and stuff when I was a kid but generally they let us get on with it. Too much pressure nowadays and social media doesn’t help. I remember being 9 and my fave memeory is waking up in the morning , no school and watching cartoons and playing in the garden. I remember a trip to Windsor castle and it was boiling hot but it still didn’t beat my cartoons or the garden. The good old days and the 80’s. Don’t worry about it, just do what you usually do but maybe have a little trip here and there but only to somewhere to want to go and will enjoy it.

Could do similar at a local park....

YABU - only because we have about 8 weeks maximum of nice weather in this country

Enjoy the weather at home..sit in the garden with an ice cream and a good book

Me too. I struggle with bright light so I cannot read outside, I can never get enough shade to see effectively. And I feel bad if I am not constantly doing something because it’s sunny.

It sounds as if this isn’t really about the weather but how you feel about what you can/are able to offer your daughter?

It makes me feel dreamy, disassociated and depressed.

No idea why but I remember feeling like this when I was about 6! I'm 40 now.

I don't feel like it in other countries when it's hot - it's really weird 💐

Look after yourself x

I used to feel that way when I was younger, that I should be in a beer garden or at a BBQ etc. Now I’m older, I’m happy to sit indoors or just sit out in the garden with my book.

I think it’s different if you don’t have a garden. Could you have a picnic in the park, go for some nice walks or to the coast (if there’s one near you)

YANBU. I’m not sure how it works for you, but I think I subconsciously associate the sunny weather with having to revise for exams.

@QuickPearlFox do you have any outside space at all? If not are you happy at home just chilling? If deep down you are happy at home then that’s fine but if you aren’t happy can you go to a park or the seaside with your dd? And if not what stops you?

YABU.

There feels this unspoken pressure to be doing something fun or exciting such as going to a beer garden, trip to the seaside picnic etc etc.

Pressure from who? if you want to stay in with the curtains closed, then stay in.

Noone is forcing you to go outside, you are doing this entirely to yourself so YABU.

Let others enjoy the sun- their fun isnt affecting you!!

Yabvu to allow yourself to be so deeply affected by other people's opinions.

Tbh as I've gotten older I find myself getting irritable when it's hot! I've always loved the sunshine and still do in many ways but feel like I wilt and don't like the sun shining on me.

Maybe it's a mix of menopause, the point of intolerance teaching in hot classrooms (along with smell/suffocation of perfumes and lynx sprayed as they walk out)/saps energy.

However when on holiday I love it, especially pools and the sea.

Enjoy your life and your daughter. Stop thinking about the things you are not doing, and the enjoyment of the things you are.

This has made me feel better. Thank you.

@op, I know what you mean, I feel I should be out at summer concerts / people’s barbecues, etc, but that sort of thing just doesn’t happen for me anymore.

As pp said, the sky will be back to permacloud and low light levels, and the air will be cool, before we know what’s what.