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AIBU here re parents and driving

30 replies

lavandermatcha · Yesterday 12:38

We have a family occasion coming up soon and we’ve booked a meal afterwards at a restaurant for us, my parents and in-laws. This was all confirmed 6 weeks ago with everyone.
My parents are staying overnight as they don’t like driving back too late and they recently downsized and moved further away. They do drive occasionally and bought a new car only last year.
They've now decided in the last day they’re not driving now which now means either both me and dh have to take two cars or order and pay for a taxi for them approx £70 which we weren’t even doing for ourselves, see if in laws would take their car and take them now as originally they were planning on travelling with bil and sil. Public transport is an option but too but they would need to get one bus walk a bit then get another bus. The bus service isn’t the most reliable and is hourly.
My husband is being brilliant and offering to do two runs dropping me and dc at the restaurent then come back and get them then do it again for going home but that’s ridiculous as it will mean he will have 4 hours of driving as opposed to just 1

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MimiGC · Yesterday 13:34

If they are elderly and this is out of character, I would suspect that one or both has lost confidence in driving recently, but are maybe too proud to say so. The new car last year is a red herring, as a lot can change in 12 months. Help as much as you can and don’t try to guilt trip them into driving. Could they maybe get public transport the day before and stay overnight nearby?

Jellox · Yesterday 13:40

I’m confused why you and DH are taking it upon themselves to sort this out.

They made the decision to not drive so I assume they made plans to get there and back.

Just ask how they’re planning to get there and back as you’re only taking 1 car.

I assume you wouldn’t choose not to drive and then expect someone else to figure out how you’re going to get there and back.

Youcancallmeirrelevant · Yesterday 15:10

Why would you pay for their taxi?

Stoicandhappy · Yesterday 15:15

I wouldn’t respond. It’s not your problem to solve. If they aren’t driving then they make alternative arrangements.

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · Yesterday 15:17

MaryBennetsGlasses · Yesterday 12:41

They should pay for their own taxi

Exactly specifically this.
And if they won't its a shame they cant attend.
My PIL are like this...

It might be they arent confident. That's fine. They still organise and pay for the taxi.

I have no time for this kind of nonsense these days.

"Oh no that's a shame. Do you want a taxi cab recommendation?"

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