To think that most of the world population was probably conceived by accident

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I was an accident, I have 2 brothers older than me. I'm just going through therapy atm for low self confidence and low self esteem. I'm thinking about how different it must feel to know that you were very much wanted. This isn't my only issue, but in therapy, I was asked to go back as far as I can remember, and I remember always feeling very low self esteem. I always felt unwanted, unwelcome, in the way, too much just slightly on the outskirts of any group I've ever been a part of. Not quite belonging. Even in my own family. A sense that I don't quite belong in the world.

Do other people have these feelings? Do you feel different knowing if you were wanted, or if you're here because you were conceived by accident?

Unplanned does not mean unwanted. My eldest was unplanned but very much wanted- he was a surprise gift and I’ve always told him that. He was the best thing that ever happened to me. His little sister was planned, conceived within a loving relationship (different dads) but it makes absolutely no difference to me- I love them both fiercely and instinctually. My eldest was the result of a very short fling with an unsuitable father but he means the absolute world to me and he has grown into a lovely young man who knows how loved wanted he loved and is.