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To be absolutely sick of hearing about the cost of living crisis

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Katypp · 22/05/2026 08:59

I surely can't be the only person sick to death of hearing about the cost of living crisis?
I am tired of reporters interviewing middle-class (usually) mothers inside paid activities such as soft play and hearing them moan about how they are struggling to make ends meet.
Have we completely lost the ability to cut our cloth according to our means or does 'struggling' now mean carrying on spending as usual then complaining when there's no money left?
There have never been as many massive new cars on the road, towns are full of hairdressers, nail bars, brow bars, tanning salons, soft play, play cafes, coffee shops, ice cream parlours, dog groomers, most of which didn't exist 25 years ago and are probably the recipients of the money of the families who say they can't keep up with spiralling costs.
Yes, some families will have been hard up before prices started to go up and will have nothing else to cut back on. They have my sympathy.
But i am utterly fed up of hearing how hard households ars being hit by the cost of living crisis when all that's needed is a few minor cutbacks which they don't want to make.

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TygerBread · 22/05/2026 11:31

What I think you are missing is…why are tv channels interviewing people who are claiming they can’t afford to heat their hot-tub or can’t afford horse-riding lessons? Think back to before the last GE, we had a Conservative government and at that point we were getting bombarded with news items about desperate pensions unable to put the heating on and scruffy looking people reliant on foodbanks. It’s all propoganda. Now we have a Labour government, and the cost of living situation is getting worse, yet the mainstream tv channels, because they are left-leaning (but pretend not to be) are not telling the real story. Instead they make they acknowledge the issue, but in a mocking way by intervening the ‘middle class mothers’, who effectively aren’t being squeezed much by this issue. They are trolling the public in support of Labour.

Take this announcement of free bus fares and discounted holiday activities. This isn’t to ‘help families’ as Rachel from Accounts is claiming, that’s not even her remit, she’s a finance person….its not her concern whether a kid has been to a theme park or not. What she’s actually doing is looking at the fact that the city centres, cinemas, theme parks etc are struggling and may not be able to either keep going or employ as many staff if they have a poor summer. She’s not trying to help families ‘save money’, she’s trying to encourage them to ‘spend money’. Labour are chasing their tails because they have been trying to deal with the cost of living rises by increasing the minimum wage above inflation, but that just causes basics such as food prices to raise as a result, so they are caught in a cycle of not knowing how to stop it getting worse.

As for the explosion in non-essentials, such as nail bars and deliveroo, we have a society that has slowly become accustomed to a higher standard of living. This is due to poor financial education and due to copying others. There will be people who genuinely believe they can’t afford to buy at the supermarket and will go to the foodbank because they have run out of cash, but will have spent money earlier than week on a take-away, had their nails done, paid their Netflix subscription etc.

Financial literacy and an understanding of what is a necessity and what is a luxury, plus personal responsibility for your own personal budget isn’t taught in schools, and often isn’t taught in families.

Add to that…British people generally don’t like doing dirty jobs in factories or farms. Go to any location in the Uk and stop 100 people and ask them what they do for work. How many are going to say they work in supermarket food or essential goods production? Not many…the majority want to work in non-essential jobs they enjoy (the nail bars) or they work in publicly funded services (with good pension plans and strong HR policies). Think of all the food you eat in a week, you might know people who work on a till at the supermarket…but how many people do you know who work on a farm or in a factory canning baked beans? While British people don’t want to work in producing essential goods….they will be reliant on other British people wanting to spend their money on non-essentials to prop up all those other industries.

Going back to the ‘middle class mothers’. They might have less money to spend on treats due to cost of living, but why did they expect to have so much to start with? Why do they expect their jobs, which involve siting on a comfortable office chair, attending meetings and writing emails, with flexible hours to fit around family life…to pay for a large house, tuition and private schools for the kids, a big new car for each parent, plenty of takeaways and treats, plus money left over to save up for holidays? All while some poor sod who works unsociable hours in a take-away on minimum wage, on their feet all the time with a back back, can’t get out of shared housing because they are on a zero hours contract, lives a no frills existence…serves them dinner. These middle class mothers have lost touch with the reality of what it means to have money worries and to struggle with not having enough money to have little treats or pleasures etc, and the media are just trolling that to make Labour appear that they have solved the worst of the issue.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 22/05/2026 11:31

Viviennemary · 22/05/2026 11:25

A part for the feckless and do gooders more like. They're toast.

Show me a political party that doesn't support the feckless or "do gooders" . It's all relative. Billionaires and nepo babies can be regarded as feckless as they enjoy wealth built on slave labour or colonialism while committing environmental crimes to continue to swell the coffers and feed hedonism. Their ideologies of poulation and behavioural control to - er - swell their coffers could fall into the "do gooder" category. It's all a matter of perspective.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 22/05/2026 11:32

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 22/05/2026 09:10

The gap between the rich and poor is widening.
The fact there are massive new cars on the street just tells you some people are doing well, it doesn’t say anything about how easy it is for normal people.

No, it tells you how many people are on PIP and get Motability cars.

BountifulPantry · 22/05/2026 11:32

I don’t think people should shut up about it.

If it’s getting you down then put your phone down, switch the telly and radio off and redirect conversations. You don’t have to consume any information if you don’t want to.

Currycats · 22/05/2026 11:32

Mangelwurzelfortea · 22/05/2026 11:18

Actually I think it's more because people who shop in Waitrose don't care much about poor people - as this thread shows. But they can empathise with sad dogs.

I wouldn’t say it’s just about people in Waitrose though. This applies nationwide. Pets over humans. I’m pretty sure pet/animal charities get more donations than children’s charities.

That mentality used to drive me mad in school, I remember once we did a class collection and took a vote on who to give it. A slight majority voted for SSPCA over the children’s hospital charity options.

I made a fuss about the poor sick kids in the hospital down the road and a few changed their vote (no I didn’t make them 🤣) so we ended up giving it to a children’s charity in the end.

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 11:35

People go on & on about coffee shops but they replaced pubs
Yes, people could afford pubs then and they can now afford ridiculously expensive coffees.

Surely if things were so tough on the average person, pubs would close and coffee shops wouldn't explode to replace pubs.

ScotchBonnet74 · 22/05/2026 11:35

LondonPapa · 22/05/2026 11:07

@Katypp I too am sick and tired of hearing about it. And to top it off, the Chancellor has just reduced VAT on junk food, and day trips to places I wouldn’t want my children heading too. Labour is a party for the poor, and it shows.

I don't really see the logic behind this tbh. It will still be unaffordable for many to go to a theme park even with the reduction of VAT. Surely it would have helped many more families if they had reduced the fuel duty instead.

BeanQuisine · 22/05/2026 11:40

TygerBread · 22/05/2026 11:31

What I think you are missing is…why are tv channels interviewing people who are claiming they can’t afford to heat their hot-tub or can’t afford horse-riding lessons? Think back to before the last GE, we had a Conservative government and at that point we were getting bombarded with news items about desperate pensions unable to put the heating on and scruffy looking people reliant on foodbanks. It’s all propoganda. Now we have a Labour government, and the cost of living situation is getting worse, yet the mainstream tv channels, because they are left-leaning (but pretend not to be) are not telling the real story. Instead they make they acknowledge the issue, but in a mocking way by intervening the ‘middle class mothers’, who effectively aren’t being squeezed much by this issue. They are trolling the public in support of Labour.

Take this announcement of free bus fares and discounted holiday activities. This isn’t to ‘help families’ as Rachel from Accounts is claiming, that’s not even her remit, she’s a finance person….its not her concern whether a kid has been to a theme park or not. What she’s actually doing is looking at the fact that the city centres, cinemas, theme parks etc are struggling and may not be able to either keep going or employ as many staff if they have a poor summer. She’s not trying to help families ‘save money’, she’s trying to encourage them to ‘spend money’. Labour are chasing their tails because they have been trying to deal with the cost of living rises by increasing the minimum wage above inflation, but that just causes basics such as food prices to raise as a result, so they are caught in a cycle of not knowing how to stop it getting worse.

As for the explosion in non-essentials, such as nail bars and deliveroo, we have a society that has slowly become accustomed to a higher standard of living. This is due to poor financial education and due to copying others. There will be people who genuinely believe they can’t afford to buy at the supermarket and will go to the foodbank because they have run out of cash, but will have spent money earlier than week on a take-away, had their nails done, paid their Netflix subscription etc.

Financial literacy and an understanding of what is a necessity and what is a luxury, plus personal responsibility for your own personal budget isn’t taught in schools, and often isn’t taught in families.

Add to that…British people generally don’t like doing dirty jobs in factories or farms. Go to any location in the Uk and stop 100 people and ask them what they do for work. How many are going to say they work in supermarket food or essential goods production? Not many…the majority want to work in non-essential jobs they enjoy (the nail bars) or they work in publicly funded services (with good pension plans and strong HR policies). Think of all the food you eat in a week, you might know people who work on a till at the supermarket…but how many people do you know who work on a farm or in a factory canning baked beans? While British people don’t want to work in producing essential goods….they will be reliant on other British people wanting to spend their money on non-essentials to prop up all those other industries.

Going back to the ‘middle class mothers’. They might have less money to spend on treats due to cost of living, but why did they expect to have so much to start with? Why do they expect their jobs, which involve siting on a comfortable office chair, attending meetings and writing emails, with flexible hours to fit around family life…to pay for a large house, tuition and private schools for the kids, a big new car for each parent, plenty of takeaways and treats, plus money left over to save up for holidays? All while some poor sod who works unsociable hours in a take-away on minimum wage, on their feet all the time with a back back, can’t get out of shared housing because they are on a zero hours contract, lives a no frills existence…serves them dinner. These middle class mothers have lost touch with the reality of what it means to have money worries and to struggle with not having enough money to have little treats or pleasures etc, and the media are just trolling that to make Labour appear that they have solved the worst of the issue.

When have "the media" ever supported Labour?

ConverselyAttired · 22/05/2026 11:42

Sidebeforeself · 22/05/2026 11:21

Agree completely…a lot of these “businesses” dont see a single customer either .mmm..wonder why?!

I was reading to the end of the thread to see if someone pointed this out so thank you both. The high streets are full of nail bars and empty barbers because they are employing cheap illegal labour and laundering money, not because everyone is throwing money at them. Dead easy way to make up customers and put their "manicures" through the till. They are constantly raided here. Last month it was an acupuncture place actually offering "massages".

As for the rest - we're doing ok but only because our household income has gone up by £30k in the last 8 years. Lifestyle is exactly the same but with more work stress. We're also in our 40s and have a 10 year fixed mortgage so had some savings behind us when all this started.

Mangelwurzelfortea · 22/05/2026 11:42

BeanQuisine · 22/05/2026 11:40

When have "the media" ever supported Labour?

That poster lost me at 'Rachel from Accounts.' Misogynistic drivel.

Currycats · 22/05/2026 11:44

BeanQuisine · 22/05/2026 11:40

When have "the media" ever supported Labour?

Just before Tony Blair got into power. Never again since in my lifetime.

EmeraldRoulette · 22/05/2026 11:44

@Fluffybuns88 "I know how to warm a house in the middle of winter when there's no heating,"

what do you do? My house was freezing as a child. My experience is all the suggestions people make don't work so I'm really interested to hear yours. I live in a warm new build so it's just curiosity.

ladyrinths · 22/05/2026 11:44

@Katypp so you or your DH aren’t self employed &’didn’t lose business or income and have less now? And didn’t moan about lack of suooort for self employed people during covid? Apologies if I have confused you with another poster.

ladyrinths · 22/05/2026 11:46

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 11:35

People go on & on about coffee shops but they replaced pubs
Yes, people could afford pubs then and they can now afford ridiculously expensive coffees.

Surely if things were so tough on the average person, pubs would close and coffee shops wouldn't explode to replace pubs.

@Passaggressfedup there are fewer coffee shops than the pubs that have closed though and coffee is cheaper than alcohol…

SweetSummerHerbs · 22/05/2026 11:48

MistressoftheDarkSide · 22/05/2026 11:15

Not really. The reasons for that are multi-factorial. Pets / animals have no choice or autonomy and most people find in them a great sense of comfort and support, so donating directly to a charity supporting "helpless" animals feels logical and beneficial.

However, there is an ingrained assumption that humans have choice and autonomy and broadly speaking that poverty requiring a foodbank is their own fault, and too much "support" encourages dependency. This age old attitude persists even when it is pointed out that the sheer numbers of people in dire straits despite perceived advantages is pointing to deeper societal / economic issues all round.

I wouls starve before I'd let my cats do so. Whether that's right sensible or logical is another debate, but without them I would be utterly alone. And no big deal if I lose a few pounds. If I died and they had to eat me, I'd feel it was useful at least.

I think you're right and it's one of the reasons for vast vet bills.

They know that many people would rather eat a crust and drink water in order to pay a vet's bill if their beloved pet was in pain.

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 11:49

@ladyrinths,
The point is that it is a thriving business which provides an expensive totally non essential service.

These businesses should be the ones closing if the economy was soon bad that people couldn't afford any luxuries any longer.

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 11:50

Just to add, I could afford a coffee from Costa every day, but it is the biggest waste of money for what it offers. I don't understand how anyone would want to buy from them, let alone those who say they can't afford fruits and vegetables.

Edenmum2 · 22/05/2026 11:51

So sick of hearing about it that you start another thread….that should do the trick

TightlyLacedCorset · 22/05/2026 11:51

I'm really suffering with rising cost of food. I'm really, really, really, struggling. I live with fear of things getting worse everyday.

Your original post is...Well I actually do not have a word for it that's appropriate, but it's made me feel like it's not worth bothering with this society anymore. Thanks.

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 22/05/2026 11:51

ScotchBonnet74 · 22/05/2026 10:02

If you are earning 90k a year and only have £20 left at the end of the month with no treats (if this is to be believed) then you have overstretched yourself somehow.

Yep. Because we took out a new mortgage based on 2 salaries, and then DH lost his job. Plus we don't do stuff on credit, pay for things outright, so all costs are met in-month. Plus saving every month.

But living like that on one salary - yeah it means budgeting tightly. I'm lucky I can.

BCBird · 22/05/2026 11:51

I haven't seen any of these weeping people you mention with the world's smallest violin. If people are struggling to put decent food on the table due to costs then it needs highlighting

TheKittenswithMittens · 22/05/2026 11:54

Passaggressfedup · 22/05/2026 11:35

People go on & on about coffee shops but they replaced pubs
Yes, people could afford pubs then and they can now afford ridiculously expensive coffees.

Surely if things were so tough on the average person, pubs would close and coffee shops wouldn't explode to replace pubs.

Pubs replaced coffee shops. In the 18th century, everyone went to the coffee shop.

florence1234567 · 22/05/2026 11:55

I have 4 small children aged 6 years to 7 months.

Were both working in wellpaid jobs, but things have gotten noticeable more expensive

It's also a pretty miserable life if you cannot take your children to softplay or the zoo anymore. I regard this as standard.

ladyrinths · 22/05/2026 11:55

@Passaggressfedup but my point was spending on “treats” isn’t new.

These businesses should be the ones closing if the economy was soon bad that people couldn't afford any luxuries any longer

Why do you think they aren’t impacted?

https://www.timeout.com/london/news/which-london-starbucks-cafes-are-closing-full-list-of-shut-locations-in-the-capital-102925

I don’t drink coffee or alcohol

Which London Starbucks cafés are closing? Full list of shut locations in the capital

Londoners will have to go elsewhere for their pumpkin spice frappuccinos.

https://www.timeout.com/london/news/which-london-starbucks-cafes-are-closing-full-list-of-shut-locations-in-the-capital-102925

Kinfluencer · 22/05/2026 11:56

Katypp · 22/05/2026 09:11

You have completely missed my point.
I have every sympathy with people who are genuinely struggling. I have said that.

Agree but people will contort themselves to make it anyone elses fault but their own
Often they are on decent salaries but have consumer debt
It was wild pre mortgage interest rises with people spending like fools because interest rates were low,now they are paying the price
Yes you are " skint" because you bought thing you couldnt really afford
Boohoo

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