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flowergirlxxx · 2026-05-21T10:50:46+00:00

Just want to know if I’m a weirdo really. I’ve got 2 teen girls in senior school and 8 year old boy in primary. mum at home with 1 year old. I worry about them all day everyday and only feel settled when they are back home 😔 it affects me so much. (They are all happy to go in the mornings & doing well) does anyone else’s mind never shut off? X

Seawolves · 21/05/2026 19:37

Very much so, my child is medically frail, non verbal and has a very limited life expectancy. He's given his teachers (and me), a scare on more than one occasion.

TotalBaloney · 21/05/2026 19:40

I worry about my 7 year old, but only because he’s profoundly autistic and non verbal, in a mainstream primary school because there are no available SEN places anywhere near us.
I don’t worry about my NT 13 and 11 year olds.

Happytap · 21/05/2026 19:41

Yes, I only feel fully settled when all my kids are under the same roof as me. I also have anxiety and depression 😂

atamlin · 21/05/2026 19:44

No, not at all. I only worry if there is something actually going on (like bullying).

ChristmasStickDaddy · 21/05/2026 19:45

I wouldn’t say all day, but definitely get waves of it regularly that I try and ignore/rationalise as I know it’s not healthy.
I trust my kids school, they are happy there and it’s a lovely school; but I do tend to worry.

DavidStopActingLikeADisgruntledPelican · 21/05/2026 19:54

Some days I do but only when there’s been a reason to- my child getting a hard time from others or when my middle one is struggling due to his ND and SEN.

Are you an anxious person generally?

EasilyPleased · 21/05/2026 20:10

mumofoneAloneandwell · 21/05/2026 11:58

Normal imo, especially if you had a shit time at school x

I had a dreadful time at school, and DS was bullied in primary — but he told me, I acted, got other parents whose children had also been victims involved, and escalated to the point where the bully had a staff member with him 1 to 1 throughout the school day and his mother (long story) was banned from the school grounds and school events. What it proved to DS is that he doesn’t have to suffer in silence, that he has a parent who will change things for him, and for me that DS doesn’t have to repeat my experiences.

So no, I don’t worry about him.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 21/05/2026 20:15

EasilyPleased · 21/05/2026 20:10

I had a dreadful time at school, and DS was bullied in primary — but he told me, I acted, got other parents whose children had also been victims involved, and escalated to the point where the bully had a staff member with him 1 to 1 throughout the school day and his mother (long story) was banned from the school grounds and school events. What it proved to DS is that he doesn’t have to suffer in silence, that he has a parent who will change things for him, and for me that DS doesn’t have to repeat my experiences.

So no, I don’t worry about him.

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Thats really good, kids should know that they can trust adults to advocate for them 👍

Mamascoven · 22/05/2026 18:20

I have 1 in secondary, 2 in primary and 1 in nursery. I don't worry at all. I do have anxiety though but my worry is focused on different things so I can understand how it feels for you.

hugasaurus · 22/05/2026 18:22

No, I don’t worry at all.

mindutopia · 22/05/2026 18:27

This is your anxiety.

Nope, I barely think about mine when they aren’t here. I have a 13 year old who works and trains in a sport after school til 9pm. It often gets to 8:30 and I only just remember she’s not there and I still have to go collect her (haven’t forgotten her yet, but nearly!).

TheBoyMayorOfPartridge · 22/05/2026 18:37

I had postnatal anxiety when I had DD and it was still very much around (though improving) when she was 1, do you think that might be playing a part here with you having a 1 year old?

I can still definitely get anxious or worry about some things, but school has never really been one of them. She loves it, seems to be doing ok, and I’ll be honest I’m really distracted trying to cram all my work into the time she’s there so I don’t really think about it much.

TruJay · 22/05/2026 23:14

Yes, I worry constantly. It used to be for both my school aged children but I worry less for the younger one now since being placed in a special unit that fully supports all her needs, she is finally thriving. I still think about her but not in the worried sense I used to. I think about what she’ll be doing and if she’s enjoying art today which she loves. One of her disabilities is progressive so I think about that still and how her heart is during PE and whether she has fallen today.

I still worry hugely for my eldest child, he has been mercilessly bullied since year 1, I’ve had suicidal periods with him, severe mental health struggles etc he’s doing his exams right now and we’re counting down the days until he leaves. I am immensely proud of him, he has overcome so much while still dealing with so much too. His school attendance percentage is in the low 40s and has been for a while. He’s been robbed of his education and opportunity to reach his potential, he’s such a bright lad, but it’s the last push through exams now and he’s done.

I will always regret not removing him from school, he maintained he wouldn’t be driven out by bullies and carried on but it’s caused him so much damage. I should have just overridden that and removed him anyway.

I have another due to start school, the first sign of any bullshit this time and it will be a swift removal, no bullshit promises, no ‘well the child in question doing the bullying does have a hard homelife….’ I don’t give a shit!

Bufftailed · 22/05/2026 23:26

Never worried about that. But I worry relentlessly about other things. It’s hard…